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Lil Community: Is Crying It Out Really That Bad?

To train or not. This post was submitted by an Anonymous reader in the A Place to Vent group.

My 1 year old has not slept through the night since he was born. Though he goes to bed at a decent time (8 PM) he wakes around 3 AM every night. I've held him, rocked him, tried just rubbing his back, and more, but the only way I can calm him down is with a bottle. Our doctor suggested just letting him cry it out for a few nights to get over this hump. According to the doctor, he is in a routine now and that routine needs to be broken. I'm willing to give it a go, but my husband is hesitant. Is it really that bad to let him cry it out?

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amandachalynn amandachalynn 6 years
Crying it out worked wonders for us. It took just a few nights. It was 5 years ago, so I don't remember exactly how many nights. I do remember letting him cry for 15 minutes, then I would go in and check on him, rub his back for a few minutes and let him know I was still there. I did not pick him up, though. Not only did it teach him how to soothe himself back to sleep in the middle of the night, it taught him how to get himself to sleep at bedtime and nap time. For me it was the best thing I did with him, but it depends on your child and family. I think it's one of those things where you have to trust your gut.
Heather-Maddan Heather-Maddan 6 years
I have three kids so if my youngest wakes up occasionally and wants me to hold him until he falls back asleep, I do it. Children are only little for such a short time and I figure he may just want/need some alone time with me. Another tip — don't look at the clock. Somehow that makes me less tired:)
lickety-split lickety-split 6 years
Is dad sharing get up at night duties?? Just asking :) I have 3 girls Number 2 is my easy child Great student Never had a tantrum Etc, etc But She HAD to be held to fall asleep until she was almost 2 years old. If I tried to have her cry it out she got so upset she threw up all over everything. For some kids; crying it out does not work. And I agree, it only lasts for a short while. Just seems like forever when you are tired.
MissSushi MissSushi 6 years
I personally don't agree with it at all. Hes only getting up once a night, and wants a bottle... and other forms of comfort don't work. Maybe hes hungry? That's 7 hours after he goes to sleep, plus however long before since he ate dinner/drank a bottle. Though, even if its just a comfort thing to have his bottle, i would let him have it at 3am. He's one, only waking once a night, and appears to sleep soundly until morning. I'm just really against anything where you ignore a very young babys needs in the name of 'training".
blakeleyo blakeleyo 6 years
Here was the system our pediatrician suggested to follow (and it worked!) When he begins to cry, check to make sure he is safe and dry; after that wait 15 minutes before looking in on him again. (Such a long time at 3am, I know!) Check again for safety and a dirty diaper and then wait another 15 minutes and check again. After the second fifteen minutes you are free to do whatever it takes to quiet him down. It took our daughter a week or so but it allowed her learn how to put herself back to sleep without Mommy or Daddy’s help. We put this system in place before naptime and bedtime and we have no issues with putting her to bed. Hope this helps!
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