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Do You Spank Your Children?

Raising children today is very different from what it was 30 years ago. In the 70s, parents hardly knew what a car seat was and many of them had no problem tossing their children over their laps for a quick swat to correct bad behavior. Today, youngsters are often praised for doing right instead of being condemned for doing wrong and spanking has practically become a dirty word in many mother's groups.

Do you have a hand in discipline — are you a spanker?


DebraGeorge1387496327 DebraGeorge1387496327 3 years
I spank both my kids. Daughter, 7 and Son, 9. Sometimes if they're misbehaving, one smack to the seat of their clothed buttocks will set them right, and it is very rare that I will actually spank them. They maybe only get 2 "spanking" a month between them.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 8 years
I wasn't spanked as a child, my mom and grandmother had this look that if I did something wrong I automatically knew and would just go straight to my room without saying a word. I hope to have the same look with my kids :)
mia-marie39 mia-marie39 9 years
i don't believe in spanking don't think hitting is necessary to get it through a kids head. plus i really want to teach my children how the real world works and in it if you do something bad someone doesn't spank you. but what really made me make that the decision not to is i think kids don't fully understand alot of time why they are being spanked and could lead to low self esteem and also i don't think i can tell my kids not to hit someone else when they do something they don't like and when my kid does something i don't like i hit them. i don't want to be hypocritical in anyway i want to lead by example.
milosmommy milosmommy 9 years
My son's still too little for punishment really, but I would spank if necessary. It would probably be a last resort of if it was a major offense like darting into the street.
LiLRuck44 LiLRuck44 9 years
I don't, but I don't have a problem with it if it is done in a calm, disciplinary manner. Not an "I have no control over you, so I will use the only thing I have, which is my strength" sort of thing. I will spank to draw attention to a serious offense, like if my kids ever dart into traffic, etc. Hasn't happened yet, but I would be okay with that scenario. We use time outs and take away privileges, it works pretty well.
keiren63 keiren63 9 years
The problem with spankings is that when spankings were last used as a predominate form of discipline, was at the same time when there was next to no public awareness of child abuse and no system in place to deal with it. Now, we all have such a consciousness of it: there are tv commercials, our children are talked to about it at school and, in Canada, teachers have an obligation to report parents if they think there is the slightest chance of abuse. While there definitely were parents who overdid the physical discipline, and spanking could be abusive, it isn't always. Many of our generation were spanked as kids and survived just fine. We may not have liked them--that was kinda the point--it did not ruin our self-esteem forever. Or even longer than a few minutes. A quick whack on the bottom for children over 2, under 9 or ten, is not abuse.
keiren63 keiren63 9 years
I'm a little confused--what the heck do car seats and spankings have to do with each other????? THat was a very bizarre sentence. You seem to be implying that parents were irresponsible about personal safety for their children and that spankings are equatable with driving a child not in a car seat????? That is one heckuva value judgment.
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 9 years
For every kid there is a way to discipline them that will actually get them to behave. With some children spanking works, getting put in the corner works, etc., etc.. If my child every does something so bad or doesn't listen after a lot of other punishments don't work, then I will spank the child. I probably wouldn't do it very hard, but if that is the only punishment that will work after trying other ones then it needs to be done. Spanking all the time isn't good and neither is yelling constantly, but every now and then it is okay to spank.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 9 years
I don't think spanking is a bad thing. Of course don't over do it either. I only spank my son when he has done something wrong. But usually I just take his privileges away and ground him.
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