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babysugar Diaries: Picking Out the Right Baby With Baby

One of my friends recently welcomed her second child. Wary of how her son would accept the newborn, she came up with a genius plan that I plan on using.

When an older child comes up to the hospital to meet his new sibling for the first time, have the infant waiting in the nursery with all of the other babies. Then when your first born arrives, you and your spouse can walk him down to the bevy of babies and ask him to pick one out. Obviously you guide him to his actual kin, but it is a rather sweet and thoughtful way of including him in the process. Another tip — you might want to mention that the package is non-refundable.

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Greggie Greggie 9 years
Also, how many hospitals even have that many babies in house at once? Even in the "rush" when my second son was born, there was only 5 babies total in the nursery, and none were ever there at the same time.
DollyDolla DollyDolla 9 years
How ridiculous!!! Whatever happened to being normal with your kids??!! instead of totally spoiling them all the time....."this is your sibling, end of story!....." of course you should include them and talk to them in order for them not to be confused but this is beyond a joke!
milosmommy milosmommy 9 years
We didn't have a "nursery" in our hospital. The nursery was for babies who needed extra special care (sick/preemie/jaundice) or for you to get a couple hours of sleep while they care for them, but the babies otherwise stay with you in your room. Oh and we were allowed to have whoever we wanted in our room, but if the held the baby they couldn't leave the room or the baby's alarm bracelt would go off.
macneil macneil 9 years
Well, if they pick one of a different race they may notice the difference when the real one comes.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
Anyone can come to the room, pretty much day or night. Visiting hours in the maternity wards here are really flexible since they want the mother to have support whenever she needs it. But they can't go into the nursery at all unless it's the parents. Exceptions are made for situations such as adoption, but not for siblings or extended family.
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 9 years
the hospitals here everyone and anyone can come to the room as long as they are welcomed by the mother, but visiting hours end right at nine and only at some hospitals can the significant other stay the night, and some hospitals here allow the baby to stay in the room with the mother and some give the mothers a break and take the baby to the nursery
Greggie Greggie 9 years
My hospital had a nursery for my second and third children, but not with the first. I did rooming in for almost the whole time, but once in awhile needed them gone for a solid hour's sleep. Although this past time, the nurse just took the baby to the nurses' station and held her there. Now that Mommy of Three mentions it, no one but parents were allowed in the nursery here either. No other children, no grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.
Baluk Baluk 9 years
What hosiptals has nurseries in the anymore?...I believe only babies that require neonatal care in Canada are in nurseries all other babies are with their mother in their room and are rarely separated from their mother from any length of time...I thought nurseries were a thing of movies and the olden days!
Mommy-of-Three Mommy-of-Three 9 years
My hospital had rooming in so my babies were always in my room. The nursery also didn't allow anyone in besides parents, and that only if the baby couldn't leave for medical reasons or concerns. I liked having the privacy of being in my room and introducing the new siblings. My older sons were 5 and 6 when my daughter was born and they were allowed in the labor/delivery room just 15 minutes after she was born, that was a special moment for everyone.
Moms Moms 9 years
I think this is a cute and clever idea!
LiLRuck44 LiLRuck44 9 years
Doesn't sound like a good idea to me. But that's me :)
macgirl macgirl 9 years
My bubs never left my side. Fortunately the first one was old enough that he understood the whole process and there wasn't much of an acceptance issue. I imagine it is much harder if you have a toddler.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i have mixed emotions about this
Greggie Greggie 9 years
Also, to point out the word again: it's wary or leery, not weary. Weary is tired, wary is cautious.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
I think it's a cute idea, but I can see a lot of setting up for failure with it as well. If they pick the wrong one and are disappointed, feel forced into the decision, etc. Plus it's in front of an audience, since nurses can't leave the nursery unattended. I prefer to bring the older child/children into my room and have a private family meeting.
redheadkimie redheadkimie 9 years
When my daughter was born she stayed in the room with me the whole time. We are currently TTC and when we have the next baby he/she will stay with me as well.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 9 years
I think the idea is cute.
katedavis katedavis 9 years
My parents did that with me when my little brother was born, but he was the only one in the nursery when I got there so they didn't have to do much guiding. It did however cause a bit of confusion when my parents explained adoption to me because I remembered "picking him out."
Mina-Xue Mina-Xue 9 years
Sorry but I think thats a wee bit weird...
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 9 years
The same here, I don't believe there is even a window and it's all for security reasons (there might be a window, I haven't seen the new hospital since it's been built.) But also they encourage the mother to keep the baby in her room the whole time. My daughter was in my room all but 3 hours after she was born.
jessie jessie 9 years
as cute as that are not allowed in the hosptial nursery where my kids were all born at....and i was only allowed in a certain section...but they could look thru the window. :)
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