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Top 10 Tips for New Moms

Top 10 Tips for New Moms

If you could give new moms or moms-to-be one piece of advice, what words of wisdom would you share? We put the question to moms who blog about parenting, and they responded with a wealth of practical (and funny!) advice on motherhood. Now that readers have ranked the most helpful answers, we're sharing the top ten tips.

#1 Forget Parenting "Rules"

"Everything you thought you knew about parenting is wrong — it is personalized for each child. –Cynthia Gregory, CGregoryRun

#2 Prepare for a Flood of Advice

"Be prepared for LOTS of unsolicited advice! Don't get annoyed by it, just expect it. Women love to share what worked for them and share their stories of motherhood even when you don't ask! Just take it with a grain of salt, throw out what advice you don't like and cling to the advice you do!" -Stacey, I’m a Lazy Mom

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#3 Carve out "Me" Time

"Take some "me time" for yourself every day. As a new mom you have a million things to do, and it is hard to see yourself taking even a minute or two from your non-stop schedule of diaper changes, feedings, soothing and much more. However, it is SO important that you arrange an hour or even 15-20 minutes a day where you do something that makes YOU relax…You will be a much better mom giving yourself this short break every day!” -Mia B. Smith, of Pregnancy Fitness


#4 Relax About Baby Products

“Babies need your love, care and attention more than anything. They will do fine without the latest and greatest gadgets and furnishings. The baby business is a billion dollar industry that tries to convince you that you need all these things they’re promoting.” -Barbara Desmarais, The Parenting Coach

#5 Find Doctors You Love

“A good rapport with your doctor is key. If you don't feel comfortable with your Ob/Gyn, your general practitioner or your pediatrician do NOT hesitate to find a new one. This is a stressful time and you need someone you can count on for support.” -Suniverse, The Suniverse

#6 Accept Your Children As They Are

"Accept your child for whoever and whatever they are. Wanted a boy but got a girl? Wanted a cuddly one and yours is standoffish? Wanted a boy who played sports but you got one who prefers princess dress-up? Wanted a healthy one but got a chronically ill one? We don't always get to choose what we get, but we do get to choose how we *handle* what — and who — we get. Our love and acceptance of our kids, especially those who are different from their peers, means the world to them." -Sarah Hoffman, Sarah Hoffman: On Parenting a Boy Who is Different

#7 Listen to Your Instincts

“Listen to your instincts. You know your child better than anyone else!” –Cheryl D., Little Bit Quirky


#8 Connect with Other Moms

“Connect with other mom or moms-to-be to ensure you have friends with kids around the same age. It's a great social outlet for you and the baby. Moms' groups, online message boards, mommy & me classes and the local park are great places to connect with other moms. I wish I had done it sooner!” -Christina Simon, Beyond the Brochure

#9 Rest When Your Baby Sleeps

“The biggest thing I learned was to rest when baby is sleeping, and to get plenty of rest before baby is born. Housework and chores can wait! Mama needs rest just like baby needs their rest.” -Amanda Acuna, Mommy Mandy

#10 Ask for Help

"Ask for help," says Jodi Shaw, author of the blog Rants and Rascals. She expands on the tip on her blog: "We all need help now and then. Help changing the baby, feeding the baby, cooking food, caring for other siblings ... in the family. Help cleaning the house, doing laundry. As a new mom you will find that there will be times you might feel overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done. These are the same tasks and chores you did daily, but now with a new baby crying for you 24/7 that list can seem almost unbearable…There is no shame in asking for help from your friends and family."

What one tip would you give to new moms or moms-to-be?

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KellyBaker63328 KellyBaker63328 5 years
Don't blame your partner when things get rough (at least for the stuff they don't deserve!) When you get frustrated with a new baby, you lay the blame anywhere but your beautiful new child. The temptation is try and find the next possible person to blame for the anxiety of taking care of a newborn baby. Rather than getting frustrated *at* anyone, realize that looking after a newborn is hard and you are going to get frustrated! Finding ways to take time out is so important, as is communication between partners. Make sure that you are being open and honest with yourself as well as your partner.
AprilHaganey AprilHaganey 5 years
I have two daughters 6 & 9 and I wish that someone would have directed me to conscious discipline seminars/ website. You can watch Dr. Bailey on youtube or go to conscious and it just gives you some awesome parenting skills that help you in adult & children real life situations. I would recommend to all parent!!
ErinGibbons99527 ErinGibbons99527 5 years
My advice to a pregnant mother would be to expect the unexpected. It's easy to get hung up on the idea that everything is going to be perfect. I learned this the hard way. My son ended up being born with special needs. And you know what? I wouldn't change it for the world. I almost lost my baby the week he was born, and he is such an amazing little guy now. Also, don't be too hard on yourself. Everything happens for a reason.
EmmaSharples EmmaSharples 6 years
One piece of advice I got and loved and I give to everyone I know that is pregnant. Crying doesn't hurt a baby. Be strong and let your baby learn to settle itself. Makes for a content baby but more important, a relaxed mother!
Jeannie93267 Jeannie93267 6 years
My advice is... What until your ready, taking care of diapers and milk isn't all there is to it. It's basically taking care of yourself x2, x3 ect. Plus more because if you love your child you will take care of then a hundred times better than you do yourself. And it takes a very strong selfless NOT selfish person to be a great mom. A whole lot of anger tears happiness moodiness exhaustion and more to be a mom. Don't think oh my mom will help and my friend, they may get excited but not even the most supportive people will be able to come close to helping enough and some just won't, that's the joy of motherhood it's a hundred percent on you. And young moms have it harder bc they have more to grow themselves, you aren't you anymore your a superhero to a wonderful child.
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