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How Diligent Were You in Getting Pregnant?

In my experience, when a woman decides she's ready for a baby, she wants to get pregnant as fast as possible. And when that moment arrives, there are two schools of thought.

One is to literally lay back and enjoy the ride. The other is to meticulously plot out a scheduled ovulation chart, pee on sticks, take temperatures and do a headstand after sex.

Which method were you partial to?

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amber_castaldo amber_castaldo 9 years
We got married, and we got pregnant. There was really no planning.
macgirl macgirl 9 years
The month we decided to start trying we had sex every day, sometimes two or three times. When I got my period I was worried that it was going to be an issue (I really overreacted, I know- I'm 35 and they really freak you out about not being able to conceive being older). I bought some ovulation strips and did them twice every day. I kept waiting and waiting for it to show me I was ovulating. We stopped having sex hoping to save it up ;-) I got a week past where I should have ovulated and I never had a positive test. So one tipsy weekend we had sex once... well that was it. As nuts as I was after one month I just can't imagine the pain and frustration some of you have been through. :-(
milosmommy milosmommy 9 years
I have endometriosis and had to take clomid to get pregnant. So I did lots of temperature taking and timing out the days. Thakfully it worked with the first round of drugs.
khrystena khrystena 9 years
My little one was a wonderful surprise too!
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
wow, lots of surprises! :baby:
Black-Velveteen Black-Velveteen 9 years
Both my kids were complete, wonderful surprises! :)
rgrl rgrl 9 years
When we first decided to try I was told I had endometriosis but got pregnant the second month and with my second child it was a complete surprise. :) (my endometriosis diagnosis was actually incorrect. It was a dermoid that I was born with and it's not an issue).
macneil macneil 9 years
I was terribly casual the first time and conceived in the second month. The second time I was larky and casual and conceived immediately... and lost the baby. Now I'm trying again and have been pretty casual (although focusing on what should be ovulation days) and it's been 3 months and nothing doing, and I'm not very young so I had better start taking it more seriously, alas.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
i was all over getting pregnant each time (explains why the first 2 are 12 months and 4 days apart). it took 3 months or less each time. we used the method recommended by the catholic church, forget what it's called. you count back from the first day of your last period, take your temp, something like that. i wouldn't use it to keep from getting pregnant though, lol. if it's any comfort ot anyone having difficulity, we have been married for 11 years and w/o exception every couple in our social group has had at least one baby, even those that had significant fertility issues. one woman had a problem and finally went with a surrogate and after 2 years of trying with that the surrogate got pregnate and then so did she. there are lots of options today :)
megnmac megnmac 9 years
LaurenG22 - Nothing is wrong with you. Going off the pill can be hard on the body, and it may be a while before your cycle regulates itself (or in the case of people with irregular cycles, it just won't). The hormones in your body are figuring themselves out after losing the guidance of the pill. Keep track of when you get your period, because even if you're not going all out and charting, that is helpful to your doctor to evaluate how irregular you are or to help you figure out timing. I went off the pill in June, had a normal period a month later, and have been trying ever since. Still trying... I have irregular cycles and skipped one in December with no positive test... without the pill I'm not even close to running like clockwork... and my doc just said I'm not allowed to worry till 1 yr since 80% of people conceive in that first year. This process has become like when you're single and notice everyone seems to be dating - everyone I know seems to be conceiving, and I am still not sure if I'm even ovulating! I am young though, and thank god I haven't told anyone (other than my husband, obviously) that we're trying. I really don't want that to be the one thing people ask about! The kid topic is already asked a lot, like when we'll have one - and I just want to yell sometimes that it isn't like it is always within someone's control...
gossipqueen7 gossipqueen7 9 years
same here luckyme ...our daughter was a complete surprise but we couldnt have been happier when we found out
LaurenG22 LaurenG22 9 years
I just decided I want to TTC... I have been off BC for one month and still NO period and NO positive test... what is wrong with me!?!
blondelawyer blondelawyer 9 years
I'm somewhere in the middle. We actually just started using the OV Watch, as I found it a little less "in your face" than the sticks and the charting, etc. So hopefully it still allows for the spontaneity of it all, but with the knowledge of the right time.
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
Baby #1 was a complete surprise. Baby #2 we started trying the day he got back from a deployment and were looking forward to the excitement of trying for a while. According to my midwife and the ultrasound, we hit the jackpot on day 1. And I feel really guilty typing this comment out knowing that it's a struggle for a lot of very good people. :oops:
fjaril fjaril 9 years
I got the fertility monitor and the first egg it gave me I got preggers. I was bored and on bed rest after foot/leg surgery. Gotta tell you the look on the foot dr.'s face was priceless.
luckyme luckyme 9 years
How about none of the above. She was a complete surprise. The best surprise of our lives, but a surprise nonetheless. We found out the weekend before our combo bachelor/bachelorette party. Needless to say, I did not indulge. For the next one, we'll be a bit more planned out, but I don't think we'll be charting (unless we have a REALLY hard time). We'll just let nature take it's course :)
DesignRchic DesignRchic 9 years
Peep, look at you and that cute baby bump!! :BABY:
faerymagick15 faerymagick15 9 years
when we first started trying we just did it when i figured i was ovulating and that was that. after 4 months of nothing i decided to get an ovulation test kit and we had been doing it a little later than my ovulation so we started timing things better and within 3 more months of trying we succeeded. Unfortunately, that was the beginnings of my recurrent miscarriages. We do have it down to a science and I don't even have to use ovulation tests anymore. I just"know" when to have sex now. I am so much more in tune with my body. After 9 miscarriages and an ectopic we are moving on to IVF to see if controlling the entire process and using meds will help or not. Sometimes it does. When I had my first 2 kids from my first marriage I was actually on birth control with my first, go figure. I had been off birth control for 2 weeks with my 2nd and got pregnant. What happened between then and now I have no clue!!!
abqmama abqmama 9 years
I figured out approximately when I would be ovulating just by the start of my period and we tried then. Luckily I got pregnant the very first cycle.
LizL LizL 9 years
Other: a little of both!
peepshow peepshow 9 years
Third choice: A little of both. TMI: I have an irregular cycle, so it was a little more tricky then just doing it 14 days (or whatever) after my period.
DesignRchic DesignRchic 9 years
For those of you wondering how in the heck I didn't know I was pregnant for that long, I actually had a period, and had NO morning sickness.
DesignRchic DesignRchic 9 years
Well we thought we mapped it out. We bought ovulation sticks, and one of those basal thermometers. My husband and I were planning on starting in December and we did. Then I tested positive. WoW that was quick! But when I went to the first ultrasound I was already almost 3 months pregnant! :ROTFL: Soooo, I guess it's not always in our control!
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