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At What Age Will You Talk to Your Tot About Santa?

At What Age Will You Talk to Your Tot About Santa?

It begins innocently enough — your lil one asks you to help him write a letter to Santa to ask for a new drum set, and puts out homemade cookies to nourish the jolly man as he makes his way through the night, and presents magically appear under the tree. Thus the story of Santa Claus perpetuates to a new generation of children.

But at some point, usually once the kids are in grade school, a rumor begins to gain momentum, and within days, your tyke is asking you if Santa is real.

When do you plan to tell your child the truth about the man in the red hat?

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MissSushi MissSushi 8 years
We ALWAYS did Santa, and I was TOTALLY thankful that my mother shared the magic with us. I learned he wasnt "real" around the first grade, just becuase i was an annoyingly logical child. HOWEVER, that didnt even remotely remove the fun, magic, and love I had for any of the holidays, but espeacially Christmas. I have three younger siblings, and we always did Santa, and no one ever ratted anyone out on antything, as we gradually learned. I will do the same with my daughter. They become desensitized and grow up too soon anyway, im going to make sure they get to experience the magic as long as possible. Ive gone on several rants about Santa and this whole thing this year already. It really ticks me off when people talk about lies and how "crushed" children are. its ridiculous. Our fairytale icons are part of our holiday magic, and theres no reason not to let your little kids play along. The few adults I know who didnt get to all regret their parents not letting them believe. Kids grow up and figure it out later, and with the exception of a few, apreciate it as much as they apreciate being allowed to come up with whatever their imaginations create. Ive never ever heard anyone thank their parents for refusing to let them experience the wonder. Half the people ive ranted to admit to just not caring about maintaining the magic or wanting their kids to know THEY got the gifts, not some fairytale. There's joy in watching your children be happy over things like presents and easter baskets and easter hunts and putting cookies out for santa.
Sarana Sarana 8 years
I can't believe 25% of the people here don't do Santa! I am with the group that says wait until they figure it our by themselves. I don't remember a big talk myself, just a certain point where you know it's your parents. I have no idea how old I was when that happened. Believing in Santa has nothing to do with lying to me. It's about believing and magic.
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 8 years
my daughter is 9 and my son is 5 and they so believe in santa, we do the whole works, they write their list and letter we take it to the post office addressed to the north pole on the back of course i put our address, and they dont have a clue about the address thing, they bake cookies leave milk for santa baby what my son calls him, its amazing to look into their eyes and see that innocence and sparkle, it just melts my heart, and i dont think its lying to my kids i think they are just using their imagination
insi insi 8 years
i never believed santa and i'm not going to lie to my kids
Mishell Mishell 8 years
I won't lie to my kid about this just to break his heart later. That's cruel. I would rather he grow up knowing he can trust what I say rather than cling to some silly tradition.
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 8 years
My cousins don't believe in Santa. They appreciate the gifts they get and when they want something for Christmas they know who to ask and say exactly what they want. I mean, they could always leave a list asking for things if they did believe in Santa, but they never really cared about believing in Santa.
PinkUnicorn PinkUnicorn 8 years
I will definitely let my child figure it out in their own time - I believed until I was about nine or ten. And I like a couple other posters, at 27, still receive presents from Santa, and I think it is hilarious!
Greggie Greggie 8 years
shoogerbooger, that is awesome!
Aphrosette Aphrosette 8 years
who's saying their isn't a santa??? I still completely believe in the spirit and magic of Santa and that will never change. I hope my children will always feel the same way
shoogerbooger shoogerbooger 8 years
shoogerbooger shoogerbooger 8 years
My neighbor's son is 10 and still believes in Santa. Last year he set up a video camera to "catch" Santa. It was great! His father dressed up as Santa, delivered all of the presents under the tree and then took the video out and cut it to look like he "poofed" into the room and "poofed" out in a big cloud of smoke when he was done. His son showed all of the kids in the neighborhood that day. It was so fun to her all of the children so excited about seeing the real Santa Claus. You could see that it was so special for them. I will wait as long as I can to tell my son the "truth"
Greggie Greggie 8 years
Some parents do use Santa as discipline. Doesn't mean the rest of us should be blamed for that fault. For us, it does good. I never had a problem distinguishing that Santa was a beautiful myth while God was real.
vmruby vmruby 8 years
My daughter is 7 and she still believes in Santa Claus and I've decided to leave it that way until she comes to me and asks if he's for real. By the way, I still get some really nice gifts from Santa too......
meandtheo meandtheo 8 years
i plan on letting my children figure it out on their own...just like i did. my older brother and sister told me when i was under 5 but i still secretly believed. i loved believing in santa; watching his sleigh on the news just before bed seeing him inch closer and closer to the U.S was so magical to me. i loved all of it, baking cookies and making eggnog with my mom so we could leave it for him...the list goes on and on, it actually makes me teary to think of it, it was such a magical/loving/fun thing that my parents did for me. i will cherish this memories for a life time and can not wait to make memories for my daughter.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
this is my middle daughter's first year w/o santa, courtesy of a "friend" at school last year. i can tell she's kind of bummed that her younger sister still has that fun. when we talked about there not being an actual santa she told me "you were a really good santa". and she still thought it was fun to visit santa at the mall :)
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
santa delivers easter baskets? was the bunny out sick? Telling children about santa, is not perpetuating any sort of Lie and it doesnt usurp any other truths you are telling them.
blt5025 blt5025 8 years
I fund out about Santa when there was still a price tag on stuff in my Easter basket. I was so amazing crushed especially since I had asked my mom the christmas before and she lied to me even though I was 7. It made me never want to tell my kids there is a Santa.
lizrocks lizrocks 8 years
I'm not going to do the whole 'Santa is a real person' thing with our child. Eventaully they're going to find out it's not real and I don't see the point in started and perpetuating a lie that does no one any good. I still remember my father telling me how crushed he was when he saw his dad putting Santa's presents under the tree when he was 5. Besides, I think sometimes parents use Santa more as a behaviour modifier than to instill wonder in their child.
psterling psterling 8 years
My dad told me that santa, the tooth fairy and the easter bunny weren't real on the same day that my hamster died. I think I was 3 or 4. He tells me now that he couldn't stand being the bearer of bad news so he decided to get it all done at once, lol. When I have kids, I'll let them figure it out on their own though.
krae85 krae85 8 years
you're 35? I would've put you around 26, good for you! I'm 24 and my dentist thought I was 16, that's just scary.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I am 35 and i still get gifts from santa. My parents never sat me down and said he isnt real. there isnt a need to do that really.
krae85 krae85 8 years
My mom's reasoning was she didn't want to tell me Santa was real so i could find out later that he wasn't, while she was also telling me God was real. I think that's a pretty good reason, but I'm conflicted because I want my kids to share in that fun pretending stuff. I guess I'll have to think on it, or just play it by ear, or say, "ask your daddy," lol.
Greggie Greggie 8 years
I'm 36 and still gets gifts from Santa. *lol* It's such an individual thing. We all do what we think is best for our kids and ourselves. I have so much fun being Santa, whereas other families think it's more fun without him.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
I'm not a parent, and don't plan on being one for a while. I think about this sort of thing, and when I have a child, I'm not sure if I will ever tell him or her if Santa is real. I guess looking at it from a kids perspective, it's fun...but honestly, Christmas is just as fun without Santa. My mom was 4 when she found out there was no Santa. She saw her dad unloading gifts under the tree when she went to go to the bathroom. She wasn't crushed. I was never really a believer, but I was sorta like "hmmm" growing up. When I was 5, I told my mom I knew Santa wasn't real. When I was five I also told my younger brother who was 3, and he didn't care. This enabled us every december to search for where mom and dad hid the gifts -- SO much more fun than waiting for Santa. I guess every kid is different. At 10 years old, though...maybe you should be like "sooo, about this Santa thing...", since 10 is a bit old. I think most kids figure it out from themselves. Ya mom, up until I was 12 put "from santa" on the gifts, and I cringed. It annoyed me, because I loved the fact that my parents cared enough to get me gifts to make me happy for a day.
Greggie Greggie 8 years
I thought it was the coolest thing that my parents "did Santa" and went to so much trouble for us. I also still have a belief in Santa, so I hope to pass that on to my kids.
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