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Is It a Knife Through the Heart When Your Child "Hates" You?

At some point in his or her child's life, every parent is the opposite of cool. The same goes for the day when the kid declares that they hate their mom or dad — whether it is in the heat of an argument or just to get a rise out of them. Some parents consider their child's words disrespectful while other people chalk it up to little more than emotional expression. How affected are you by your offspring's words?

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Moms Moms 7 years
Thanks for all the great comments! Since hate is such an intense emotion it wouldn't bother me if my kids said it because they'd be expressing themselves. I'd only be upset if they became apathetic toward me — that would break my heart.
psterling psterling 7 years
I remember that my mom really freaked out when I told her this as a child and I knew at the time that I didn't mean it and that she was overreacting. I'm expecting my own child this winter and while I'm sure it'll hurt more than I anticipate, I don't think I'll take it to heart, knowing that I didn't mean it myself as a child.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
No. I've said something in response like "well I love you no matter what" and "when you're the mommy maybe you'll do better". Honestly, these days kids are exposed to such sassy talk on tv and at the movies that this is a bit mild.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
My mom also cried when I said this to her as a kid.
babysugar babysugar 7 years
Last week my son told me that "I wasn't his friend anymore" after I wouldn't get him a new toy he wanted. I know he didn't mean it, but boy did it hurt! (BTW, my response, much like the one my mom used with me as a child was: but I'll always be your mommy!)
amandachalynn amandachalynn 7 years
I can't vote because I don't agree with the way it's worded. Saying a 'knife through the heart' indicates hurt feelings. It did not hurt my feelings, however, it is rude,disrespectful, and will not be tolerated.
starbucks2 starbucks2 7 years
I don't think I ever said that to my mom. Maybe I did when I was little, but I don't think so. I'm pretty sure it would break my heart if she ever said that....I don't think I'd handle that very well.
millarci millarci 7 years
I remember once when my sister told my mom that she hated her. My mom didn't cry in front of us, but she eventually broke down and cried in front of my father. I remember hearing her say how she was a bad mother or something like that. I will never forget that look on her face. She looked so heartbroken. I vowed from that moment on that no matter how angry I was that I will never ever say use that word toward my loved ones.
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