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When Is Ear Piercing Appropriate?

Is Getting Your Daughter's Ears Pierced a Big Deal?

Getting your ears pierced in my grammar school was a huge deal. My mom finally let me puncture my earlobes with tiny gold studs when I was 10. I still remember what I wore to the mall and how my classmates inspected the jewels when I got to school. In the years that followed, my friends and I would make trips to the mall just to buy earrings and expand our collections. For some people, ear piercing is a cultural tradition done when lil girls are born or still babies. Other parents believe it's a right of passage into adolescence.

I've heard stories about moms who made their daughters wait until graduation or celebrated their first period by allowing them to pierce their ears. I didn't have a plan so when my 5-year-old told me she wanted to get hers done the other day, I said okay. She loves fashion, putting outfits together and creating her own style, but next month she'll be heading to kindergarten at a private school that requires her to wear a uniform. Choosing earrings will still allow her a bit of creativity.

The other reason I'm granting her wish is because our new baby will soon make its debut. Before my son was born, we took a trip to Los Angeles to visit my best friend for a girls' weekend and my daughter still talks about it. I want her to have the same type of special memory prior to this sibling — not just because she's about to get another sister or brother, but because she's growing up too. What's your opinion on ear piercing?

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nessa17 nessa17 8 years
I have had my ears pierced since I was a baby and so has my sister. Being from Africa its not that much of a big deal and most girls from my country when they are babies get theirs done, its the norm. I always wore studs and small earrings until I was about 10 or 11 though.
kikidawn kikidawn 8 years
I totally and completely agree with you CaterpillarGirl
cheersdarlin916 cheersdarlin916 8 years
I say no to piercing until the child is old enough to take care of them theirself. That is what my parents did for my sister and I and that is what I will do if I have a daughter. It worked out well. I personally think it looks terrible on infants. They grow up fast enough. They don't need to alter their little bodies so early.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I used to work right next door to a kiosk that pierced babies ears all day long and It took everything I had not to yell at the parents that their wants shouldn't outweigh thier childs well being. No baby wants to have their ears pierced they dont want to be held down and frightened like that and it does hurt them, yes they get over it, but why put them through that in the first place? What if they didnt want that done? why are you as a parent deciding on cosmetic preferences for your child? Wait till they are old enough to decide, and take care of their ears and make it their choice.
PeachyKeen19 PeachyKeen19 8 years
I got my ears pierced between the time I was four to six months old. I'm Hispanic and it's a very cultural thing for us...this is a funny story though, my dad was there to watch it and he was cringing. He was like this is so barbaric! Because of course I was his baby girl, but it's the norm culturally and I was healthy and I'm glad my mom did it. I have also heard that piercing a young girl (baby girl's) ear is symbolic of opening one's ears to the word of G-d. Plus, the skin on a baby's ear is very thin so it's not supposed to be as painful as it would be to an adult.
Triste3030 Triste3030 8 years
I got my ears pierced as a baby by my aunt. I've seen my aunt pierce so many newborn ear's while they're sleeping and the babies don't even wake up! I guess it's a Latino things, it's not a big deal at all!
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
I got my lobes done at 2 -- and rarely wore any, because as a child, probably through middle school I was allergic to anything other than surgical steel. Yes, even real gold and stuff. I can't tell you how many times my parents bought me expensive earrings, and I could not wear them. In HS my allergy went away -- but still rarely wore them. When I was 16, I got a 2nd hole pierced, and at 17 I got my cartilage done. Still, rarely wore them. I still do not. I guess it's just out of habit. I'll get them for my daughter if she wants them.
Sarana Sarana 8 years
I think it's wrong to pierce the ears of a baby. So for me it would when the child asks for it. I had mine done when I was around 8 I think, but stopped wearing them and they closed although they were still visible. Last year I had them done again. It was with a gun, I never heard of issues with that and didn't have any problems.
MissSushi MissSushi 8 years
as an off note, the earings were probably put on just for the picture, but those braids do look really really tight. I dont think i could inflict that kind of pain on a baby, especially considering how long the headaches can last.
MissSushi MissSushi 8 years
Mine were done when i was lke 4 months old, and i liked earrings for a really long time. Later on, around 15 or 16, i stopped wearing my earlobe earrings and got my cartilidge pierced twice on side, and did it myself on the other. The guns seriously damage the tissue around the impact site, on top of sterilization issues, so i would never ever ever use a gun. Im going to ask her doctor soon if she will do them, and go from there. We were going to do it while she was an infant, but i decided agasint it becuase pretty much from birth she was grabbing her earlobes constantly. It wouldnt have worked. Piercing parlors dont have restrictions on under 18s, other then the laws per state on the types of piercings, if any, and they obviously have to be acompanied by their legal guardian. I'm really into piercings, as were most of my friends, so its old hat for us.
leahandcecilia leahandcecilia 8 years
I got mine pierced when I was 10 and it was SUCH big deal for me. I still remember how exciting that was. My daughter is 3 now, but will not be any younger then 6. Little girls grow up so fast now; I want to space out the "big" moments as much as I can. Maybe I can ward off the belly button and tongue until she's at least out of high school..haha
dani17731 dani17731 8 years
I got my first piercing when I was 4 and I was the last of all my cousins and friends. Mostly everyone I know got them done as babies. I would let my kid get it as soon as she asks. I badgered my mom for a second piercing when I was 12, a third when I was 15, and I got a fourth when I was 19. I don't usually wear earrings in the 3rd piercing (the 4th got infected) and I think it's a passing stage. My cousin is almost 10 and she doesn't want her ears pierced. She's happy to buy clip-ons, and I'm really surprised that stores actually sell cute clip-on earrings (@ the Icing and Claire's). When I was a kid the only clip-ons were for old ladies lol.
Chaoticfury Chaoticfury 8 years
Film girl- I agree with you. I've never had dangly earrings as an infant (I had mine done at the doctor too). Also, I've never seen a infant's hair plaited so tight. I can only imagine the screaming and hair damage.
filmgirl81 filmgirl81 8 years
also, it's weird to me that the baby in the pic is wearing dangling earrings. I wore studs until I was 8. It can be a hazard to have hoops on a small child
filmgirl81 filmgirl81 8 years
My pediatrician, who is Indian, did it for me when I was a few months old. It's a cultural norm. But now that doctors don't do it, I would worry about getting it done for my own daughter.
Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
When I was little, my mom always told me I had to wait until I was 16 to get my ears pierced, but she eventually gave in when I was 10. For my daughter, I think I will let her get them pierced when I think she really starts asking for it and is old enough to take care of them. I think 6 or 7 is probably the youngest I would let her get them based on the ability to take care of them.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
i think when the child is old enough to take care of her ears and make sure they are clean. different for every child. my middle daughter is 10 now and got her ears pierced last summer. she's very responsible, has worn contacts for about the same amount of time w/o incident, etc. i also worry about earrings getting caught on sweaters and in hair on the monkey bars when they are little. and at my girls schools only very specific types of earrings are allowed. i think it's the smallest gold posts or teeny-tiny hoops. so not a lot of individuality there.
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