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When It's Time For a Mother to Let Go

When It's Time For a Mother to Let Go

While many new moms are anxious to get their lil darlings out of diapers, San Francisco Chronicle reporter and author Regan
is experiencing a milestone long down the line — that of her son leaving the nest.

In "The Great Letting Go" she talks about her emotions in saying goodbye to her firstborn as he prepares for college. In regard to how hard it is to let go, she said:

This comes as a great surprise to a mom who, when he was a baby and toddler, couldn't wait for him to go to sleep by 8 so my husband and I could briefly recapture our life as a pre-kid couple. When he got to be a bigger kid, I relished every play date and sleepover that freed me to do what I wanted for a little while.

To finish the story,


Now I'm greedy for every minute he's home. He's gone from the boy I wish would clean his room to having rock star status. I anticipate his arrival at dinner time with the eagerness of a fan hoping for a glimpse of the guitar player as he steps momentarily from limo to backstage door.

Reading this tear-inducing piece makes a mom think twice about ushering her kids outside to grab a minute's peace or telling them to "grow up."

Photo by Mary Eisenhart

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stephley stephley 9 years
It's funny, when they're 18, you feel sad letting them go but let them stay until they're 22 (as the niece I raised did) and you start to panic that you failed. I remember explaining to her that I needed to push her out of the nest because I needed to see if she had learned to fly. It felt so mean! But she finally decided to go to college and once she started securely earning her own money, she was fine.
girlshop75 girlshop75 9 years
it's kinda creepy how similar he looks at 8 and 18
TwistandShout TwistandShout 9 years
Aww, he looks just like his momma
anniekim anniekim 9 years
LOL cesy--he does!
CesyBabe CesyBabe 9 years
hehe he has the same haircut now as when i was little!
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
bitter sweet. you are so proud of their accomplishments and you so love their "littleness".
anniekim anniekim 9 years
I already get nostalgic over my 4 year old--I'm sure when she gets old enough to leave home I'll be an emotional basketcase. But still, every mom needs personal time.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 9 years
I have 2 years until my oldest will be leaving us for college or whatever she chooses. Yes, it will be difficult, but I'm also excited for her and all the opportunities she'll have in starting her life, it's just so darn exciting!
phatE phatE 9 years
ohjeez your just speaking on the reality/facts of it, not the emotions.. of course people realize it's natural and good for a child to grow and up become independent, but just because it's good, doesn't mean it's easy.
ohjeeze ohjeeze 9 years
You have to raise your children to become successful adults you cannot cling onto them. Regan should be happy she raised a good son. I am almost 100% positive that Regan is not going to want her son still living at home when he is 30. As I say better now than never.
maddielove maddielove 9 years
My baby is only 11 months old ... but I can see myself feeling the same way when my daughter 18 years old and leave the nest to go to college
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