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Why Didn't Anybody Tell Me?: Incontinence

Why Didn't Anybody Tell Me?: Incontinence

Incontinence – I never knew what the word meant until I was eight months pregnant. I sneezed while walking down the block and was shocked by the bodily fluid that came from between my legs — yikes!

Luckily, I was wearing a skirt so it wasn’t obvious. I immediately rushed to my car (which wasn’t an easy task) and drove home.

Ladies, incontinence doesn't just stop once you have your baby. A friend of mine went for a run two weeks after giving birth and nearly emptied her bladder. She's still thankful that her black jogging pants masked it.

Have no fear — you won't be peeing on yourself forever. After two months, I could sneeze, laugh, cough, and jog all at once without worrying.

Did you ever have this problem?

stardelice stardelice 9 years
I'm 8 mos. and haven't had it... yet. Granted, its not guaranteed, but if I do, I'll make sure to have those pantyliners nearby AT ALL TIMES!!
GirlC GirlC 9 years
This just started at 4 months. I hate it.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
yeah, this is one of the things they need to be teaching those high school girls who think having a baby sounds so glamourous. my mom had to have surgery to tighten up her bladder area! how painful does that sound? i also have to very suddenly excuse myself lots of times and got a serious kidney infection last year because it started as a bladder infection that i couldn't feel. why do we get that anyway? is it the pressure of the baby on the bladder that causes loss of sensation and control or what?
jmarc23 jmarc23 9 years
Yeah, two years after having my twins, I do experience this with a particularly hard sneeze or coughing fit. It's not anything too common or problematic for me to worry about, but when it happens, it's still a bit of a surprise!
Neural Neural 9 years
Yeah, I didn't realize I'd have this problem, either, until a particularly hard sneeze one day after I returned from maternity leave. It wasn't a terribly large amount of fluid but, yeah, panty liners are a good thing to wear!
alexismae alexismae 9 years
ok, why did not one of my friends or family tell me about that i read this is the first time i now know i am not the only one..phew!!! THANKS!
Jessamyn Jessamyn 9 years
Luckily I didn't have this problem in my two pregnancies. But I've had a lowering of my uterus which was pretty scary!!! After I gave birth, I went to my midwife and took the gymnastik course for the pelvic floor. It all is good now, but still, my body will never be the same, of course ;P
missmarlo missmarlo 9 years
Yes..its scary because you never know when it is going to happen....when you sneeze, cough, get scared etc.
kimmie33 kimmie33 9 years
Yep...kegels definitely have helped me with this. Just one of those issues that comes with the MOM title. Oh well.
zastone zastone 9 years
It doesn't always go away after the baby arrives - even with number 1. I gave birth to my first baby at age 35 and 16 months after I was still completely wetting myself when walking or trying to do gym and also at random times if I was stressed or going up stairs. Forget about drinking alcohol! I eventually had surgery a few months ago and now the problem is completely resolved. This problem is something people never talk about and I think it is far more common that most people think because when I was going through all the Drs visits, tests etc to determine what was causing the problem many women said to me that they also have incontinence or have a friend who does. I probably should have been better about doing kegels during my pregnancy but and OB Gyn (I switched to him when my original OB Gyn wanted me to do biofeedback instead of getting the surgery) said to me that you can do kegels until you're blue in the face and they won't fix an incontinence problem that already exists.
chancleta chancleta 9 years
i had no idea thanks for the heads up
coloradomomma coloradomomma 9 years
It happened with my second baby and still happens from time to time but I had tears with my deliveries- I think that doesn't work in my favor- Panty Liners are highly recommended.
lms lms 9 years
I don't recall this ever happening to me. I had to pee constantly, but it didn't happen when I sneezed, etc.
LilahMommy LilahMommy 9 years
My first and only is almost 3 and it still happens to me - though only when I sneeze. (And yes - I, too, do a million kegles a day.) I HIGHLY RECOMMEND panty liners!
MsLori MsLori 9 years
Haha Oh man I remember that, sooo NOT FUN especially when your out & about!! haha
dirtbikemommie dirtbikemommie 9 years
unfortunately for me, this still happens. and yes, i have done the kegels and everything else. i have spoke with my ob/gyn and he said that to correct it for me, since i have done everything else, i would have to have surgery :( and I am NOT having that done, atleast not anytime soon. my kids wrecked all kinds of havoc on my body, but they were so worth it!
2princesses 2princesses 9 years
Not after the first, but it was a problem after the 2nd. She's 22 months old and it has *mostly* gone away.
ylatan ylatan 9 years
that's never happened to me. but, whoa! going for a run 2 weeks postpartum??
KerryG KerryG 9 years
I've always had pretty good control, and mine only lasted about a week after I gave birth, thank goodness. Not sure if I'll be so lucky in the future, though! I'm one of three kids and I don't think my mom has any problems with it, but my mother-in-law had five and she certainly does.
cutecurls cutecurls 9 years
oh great, another lovely surprise to look forward to. lol
Greggie Greggie 9 years
"Have no fear — you won't be peeing on yourself forever." Oh I beg to differ. I've had it since being pregnant with my first, and no matter how many kegels I do, it's still there and always will be. Depends/Serenity pads are a lifesaver.
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
This happened to me and still does. My oldest will be 8 and my youngest is 1 1/2 and ever since I had my first... I still have to stop in my tracks if I'm standing and I know it's going to be a big sneeze/cough ESPECIALLY if I haven't used the bathroom in a while. It never goes away with some women. And I do kegels, it helps some, but hasn't stopped it completely.
sugar_me_sweet sugar_me_sweet 9 years
i didn't know that happened when women are pregnant. now i know what to expect that.
macgirl macgirl 9 years
Mine went away after I had my son 9 years ago. I don't think it took too long. Being 31 weeks right now I have to stop in my tracks, clench and concentrate really hard when I sneeze or it's all over ;-)
keiren63 keiren63 9 years
It only "goes away" after baby number one and maybe two. This is why they teach you how to do "kegels" in labour classes. When I was pregnant with number three I swore to everyone I knew that I wanted to get famous and do my own personal Public Service Announcement on the importance of doing kegels!! When you first learn about them, you do them a couple of times, then it seems silly and most people stop. Any more than one baby and you'll wish you hadn't. By child number four I got pretty serious about them. kegels, kegels, kegels...
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