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Why Didn't Anybody Tell Me: Second Kids Learn Quick!

Why Didn't Anybody Tell Me: Second Kids Learn Quick!

We waited for what seemed like an eternity (one year) for our firstborn to walk, but her younger brother was up and running before we even had the chance to realize it might be time.

That's how everything has been with my son. The other day, he climbed into our SUV, got in his booster and buckled himself up (a pleasant change from him finagling his way out). All the time we've spent prepping our daughter for her kindergarten screenings has paid off in an unexpected way — the lil guy counts the 15 stairs up to our flat and sings his version of the alphabet at random.

While parents take pictures of every step and breath their first child takes, when the second baby is born things are a bit more lax and they are able to just soak up the world around them. And, those human sponges seem ready for the ride whether it's a carpool to school or a trip to the playground. Did you find this to be true with your children?


Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
Well, I will say, as the oldest, I definitely did everything faster than my brother. Way. Anyway, all kids are different. I believe that birth order affects personality and stuff like that, but being born first, second, whatever doesn't mean that one is going to learn faster or slower than the other.
Jessiebanana Jessiebanana 8 years
Could it just be that your second child is smarter than the first, in terms of executive functioning?
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
each of my kids learned things at different rates. there was some wanting to keep up w/ their older sib(s) with my second and third children, but they are also just more naturally good at some things. child #3 was a very early talker and language still comes very easily to her. child #2 could follow a like a 5 step series of instructions at barely 2 years old, and the thing we always hear from coaches is "she takes instruction very well". i also think that with child #1 you are so excited for the firsts, because they are your firsts too! first tooth, first pulling up to standing, etc. it's still exciting, but you don't pick up the phone anymore to tell everyone. it's just different.
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