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Why People Defriended You on Facebook

10 Reasons Moms Drop Facebook Friends

Are you losing friends on Facebook, but you don't know why? Maybe you're a "vaguebooker." Maybe you share way too much information. Or could it be that you post so frequently that people can't stand you clogging up their Facebook feed? Here, moms share the top ways to go from friend to unfriended.

1. Swearing Too Much

Some people don't have a problem with profanity, but for others it's a deal breaker. Jennifer A. says she deletes friends if she sees more than two profanity-laced updates a week, while Desiree R. is so offended that she's even unfriended family members because of bad language!

2. Being a Competitive One-Upper

We all know these type of Facebook friends: the ones who always have to one-up your statuses. September W. says she can't stand it when people compete with status updates. Although she does admit she feels a little bad that they feel like they have to compete.


3. Acting Like a Drama Mama

Moms agree that being a drama queen — deliberately posting statuses just to cause drama — will get you unfriended faster than you can update your status. If you're stirring the pot to get your friends' attention, you're better off reaching out directly.

4. Posting Views That Make Other People Uncomfortable

Jane S. is clear about what types of views she won't tolerate. "I defriend people for making racist, sexist, or anti-any-whole-group statements," she says. Other moms, like Krista E., say a pet cause about which you post a "bazillion links" may not get you unfriended, but will get your posts hidden from the News Feed.

5. Oversharing Mundane Moments

Everyone has boring, mundane chores or errands to deal with, but your friends don't want constant updates about it. It may sound harsh, but Carol H. is probably saying what a lot of your friends are thinking: "I don't care that you are sitting in traffic. I don't care if you are at the dentist. I don't care that you are grocery shopping."

6. Complaining a Lot

You may not remember this Saturday Night Live sketch about a woman who always complained about everything, but hopefully you're not a Debbie Downer on Facebook. If so, then you're the person who Nikki S. says blames everyone else in the world for your shortcomings, something many people find really annoying.

7. Posting Vague Comments

This is one thing I absolutely won't tolerate from my Facebook friends. I'm of the opinion that if you have something to say, just say it. Circle of Moms member Lissa H. agrees. She says people who post vague, angry messages that hint at who it's about and then won't reveal more information need to stay quiet or deal with it privately.

8. Posting Too Much Information

Oversharing is something that is bound to lose you more than a few friends on Facebook. Moms almost unilaterally agree they don't need to know the intimate details of your life. As Becky F. so bluntly puts it, "We don't all need to know that you have wicked cramps today or that you pee when you cough or the details of your last sexual encounter."

9. Posting Too Frequently

Jurnee S. says she had to delete a friend who posted every move she made because the constant updates were filling up her News Feed. She's not alone. Another member named Nikki says, "It drives me crazy when people post something every three seconds. I usually end up hiding that person because it just becomes too much."

10. Using Facebook to Fight With a Spouse or Ex

Finally, readers Amber N. and Nikki S. point out that people having personal fights and airing dirty laundry on Facebook is cringeworthy, and Krista E. says it's just tacky. If you're willing to cross the line and make your friends spectators to your spectacular blowouts, don't be surprised if some of them leave the ring.

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CynthiaDado1374020869 CynthiaDado1374020869 3 years
Live and let live. But some people are just attention-whores.
LindaHeredero LindaHeredero 3 years
I was dropped by someone who was in such deep self pity that she couldn't stand the fact that I was moving forward in my life and not playing the pity role with her. We both experienced loss of children and only had that in common. I reached out to her for a while but she had lots of anger issues. One day I noticed her name was gone (no big loss) because my posts were positive and showed my reason for living gorgeous grandbaby.
Percy15256306 Percy15256306 3 years
Simple solution ..DONT OPEN IT IF YOU DONT LIKE IT, and stop being NOSEY about someone else business on posting. So be the ones I hated most they always put something like this non sense ; Oh Im eating my banana now..soooo? who cares..thats what I called a WASTE OT TIME readingit.
CateyHamilton CateyHamilton 3 years
One of my biggest pet peeves is the mom that feels the need to post how great of a mom she is all the flippin' time, i.e., look at the awesome homemade learning project that's way over the top that I did. Look at the awesome completely homemade"insert dish" that I made for my family. They love me so much. Look at this over the top thing and that over the top thing I did 'cause I love my family so much! You're a great mom, yet you need to tell the world so everyone else can tell you how awesome you are? Sounds like someone has low self esteem, and you aren't going to get the boost from me and a ton of random strangers. It's different if she had been posting a comment about how to do something like that for other moms if they are interested, but I defriended a mom for just posting, literally, posts about how awesome she was. It doesn't help any when you know the mom personally and you know how much she complains about how rotten her life and husband are, yet portrays the exact opposite online for strangers to tell her how jealous they are of her life.
BClark8105 BClark8105 3 years
If people automatically think someone else is posting a facebook status to 'top them" then maybe they have the problem..thinking everyone elses posts are 'about them" or trying to make them 'appear better' then maybe they need to look at themselves in the mirror and ask "Why do I "THINK" they are trying to "one up" me??" What makes me SOOO important that I think what they posted in anyway takes anything away from what "I" posted??? If someone is going to 'unfriend' me because I post views they find uncomfortable good..because it shows their own intolerance to opposing views, and how any type of conversation with them would be pointless. And I don't want friends who are unwilling to discuss diverse views on a topic, to where someone (including me) may change my mind..
AimeeWright66341 AimeeWright66341 3 years
there's a RESTRICTED LIST in facebook that you can put friends you are annoyed of & or friends you're not really close and doesn't want them to see your private photos etc. This is a list where they can only see posts and profile info you make public. And it's a good thing than to unfriend them.
Lindsey90061 Lindsey90061 4 years
Great list! I have my own Top 10 things that drive me crazy on Facebook, etc.
TashaOliverson TashaOliverson 4 years
Personally, I don't care what people think about me and MY facebook page. it's my page do with as I please. I'm not one of those people that friends anyone and everyone. I use my facebook to express myself. if you don't like what I post, than you don't like me and I don't need you in my life anyway.
BeverlyPadilla BeverlyPadilla 4 years
No, my friends are allowed to be whoever they want to be.
MelyndaPingal MelyndaPingal 4 years
Facebook? Whats facebook?
ShannonChavez64116 ShannonChavez64116 4 years
Facebook drama is lame. Many many people have hit the chopping block without a second thought. Honestly though, who cares? If people cut me I don't batt an eye.
CoMMember13631164146783 CoMMember13631164146783 4 years
Stay off of FB if you don't like it....plain and simple.
CoMMember13631164146783 CoMMember13631164146783 4 years
To Nicole...I am a parent and a military spouse. No, the two are totally different things...that I agree. But as long as a football player makes more than any member of the military that has been in combat situations....the military has room to gripe. Now the media has a lot of explaining to do for many of these shooting incidents. Because of what some do, don't take my right to bare arms. Obama is an's not rocket science. Let's take away free speech and your lives will become very boring.....
BarbaraBurke26476 BarbaraBurke26476 4 years
Not just moms, but everyone drops facebook for those very reasons.
TriciaBromirski TriciaBromirski 4 years
A girl I'm friend with lost a lot of weight and looks fantastic. That being said, I am sick of seeing pictures of her at the gym or even worse, pictures of her abs first thing in the morning.
vickilangdondorney vickilangdondorney 4 years
Guys who troll FB and try to friend you, so creepy. As to the comment made by one of Nicole A.'s military friends, as a Veteran of the USMC what he said is true, there are no mentions of those who gave their lives for our freedoms, but the media always covers a shooting incident at home. I believe you took his comment out of context especially using the terminology "it's funny". As a Mom of six (6) I can not even fathom what those poor grieving parents have and are and will always go through.
TabiDeneweth TabiDeneweth 4 years
#7 is my peeve. Vaguebooking. grrr.
RachelStauffer28596 RachelStauffer28596 4 years
NicoleArriaga NicoleArriaga 4 years
I've dropped military friends because they are constantly complaining about being in the military and things not being far, 1 military "friend" who always complains had the audacity to state after 1 week of the Newtown Conn. shooting publicity that "it's funny how much publicity a school shooting gets but the military men and women who lost their lives are forgotten". As a parent I couldn't even stomach how he could compare the two..
HeidiLynBurke HeidiLynBurke 4 years
I've blocked people for the posting vague passive aggressive rants all the time. I tend to keep my life free of people who bother me (or maybe I'm just not easily offended) but some people seem to be either really sensitive or magnets for drama. To me if the details are something you are afraid to post for whatever reason you really shouldn't post about it at all. I also once unfriended someone because they were always posting about how people took advantage of them and how they always do nice things for people but never get anything in return, which I could handle until they started using the same reasoning to guilt people into buying things from their Scentsy party! Really, do you need to sell flameless candles that badly that you try to convince people that they "owe you" because you've been a good person? Who does that? I also keep friends if they disagree with me politically if I find them interesting for other reasons and if they are capable of calm, mature discussion rather than just mocking the other side constantly (I don't even care for that if I agree with their position), but I don't go on Facebook to debate politics and if someone keeps posting statuses I disagree with the pressure to say something generally over comes me eventually and then facebook changes from a light forum to a serious debate forum. I'm probably guilty of over posting. I try to save some of it for blogging but I like to be clever and I'm always sending my thoughts out into the ether. Twitter would probably be better suited for that, but hashtags confuse me.
Jessica18155 Jessica18155 4 years
Yes I totally agree with all of them. I had to delete one girl cause of the one upper. Everything I posted she posted and it was so annoying that I just deleted her. Then her DF at the time called my DF asking why I deleted them. I also def deleted if you complain a lot about your sad life or if you always go out and party and complain the next day about how drunk you are and how you partied hard and have a hang over. I also def deleted 2 girls for always using fb to fight, Might as well write to each other through private msg.
Stacy15018836 Stacy15018836 4 years
I was unfriended and blocked by my son's gadparents. I asked her during the election why it mattered if her MP was for or against abortion. She didn't like me asking about her views. Now she wonders why I don't contact her so she can see him. I used FB to contact her and so she could see pictures of him. Her loss.
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