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I always thought I'd stay at home with my children once I became a mother. I was a stay-at-home mom for my daughter's first year of life, but then eagerly jumped back into the workforce. When I became pregnant with number two, I thought it may not even be an option to come back to work. After much consideration and calculation, I decided it was best for my mental health and children's well-being for me to be a working mommy. Having just finished my first week back, I know I made the right decision.

To see why,


Some moms are wired to entertain their wee ones all day long on the home front; I am not cut from that same cloth. I turn into a lazy sloth when I am at home all day long and find it way too easy to lounge on the couch and stay in pajamas. My nanny is much better about rallying the troops for jaunts to the park, music classes at the library, and teaching them Spanish. I am more productive and energetic when I have less time to accomplish numerous tasks so work actually fires up my engine. Odd as it may sound, my lil loves benefit when I head to the office. When I get home, we are all excited to see each other. Dinner time is social hour and baths are full of bubbles and laughter. Before heading back to work, I looked forward to the 5 o'clock hour because it meant the wind down was near and my alone time was imminent. Now, I race home from work because I can't wait to spend that precious time with my darlings before they hit the hay.

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jessie jessie 8 years
i am a SAHM...when my first was born..i went back to work after several so did not work out. i wasn't happy, he wasn't happy. each parent is different. familys do whats best for them. and it seems to work out just fine either way. :)
hithatsmybike hithatsmybike 8 years
I don't have kids yet, but I have no plans to be a stay at home mom. I just don't want to. Luckily, the boyfriend wants to be a stay-at-home dad, so this will work out for us. Our other option is each working part-time on alternate days. We're definitely going to have a nanny no matter what though! I might change my mind later, when I actually have children, but as of right now being a full-time stay-at-home-mom is not for me
runningesq runningesq 8 years
You can't always just jump back into the workforce when your kids are older. It's a good plan but not a well thought out one. Jobs change, technology improves, and people with more current training/ education/ experience are vying for the same jobs. If you do stay at home, I recommend staying current through continuing education, volunteering, reading trade journals, etc. When we have kids I will work --- not just because we couldn't live in his income, but because I love my job and get a sense of fulfillment from it. I HIGHLY recommend The Feminine Mistake: Are We Giving Up Too Much?
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Wow, I have so much respect and admiration for those of you juggling these crazy schedules. I don't know how I could leave them (I don't have kids yet). I think it would be better if I could afford a nanny, but I doubt I would be in such a position. I agree that a happy mom makes a happy family.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
i think it's important that whatever choice a mom makes it is treated respectfully by the people in her life. we all need to do what's best for our families. not just with choosing to work outside the home, but things like breast feeding, co-sleeping, choice of education setting, etc.
fsquaash fsquaash 8 years
I feel the same way! I didn't know what to expect when my first two were born, but was pleasantly surprised about the transition back to work. When I became pregnant with my most recent two, I thought there was no way I could juggle 4 and work. But it's been good--for everyone.
macgirl macgirl 8 years
Very honest and I'm glad to see you haven't been slammed for this. While I think I could be a good SAHM I must say that I love what I do for work. I get a thrill and a sense of fulfillment from my job. I'm happy and complete in all ways which makes me a better mom. I adore my boys and have changed my work schedule to have more time with them. I feel like I have a good balance of both worlds.
Moms Moms 8 years
What a great post full of honesty!
greenapples1987 greenapples1987 8 years
I'm going to be a stay at home mom. Right now I'm in college getting my degree so that I can be an XRay tech. After that my boyfriend and I are getting married and I'll prolly work for a year or two and then we'll have kids. When they are older I'll go back into the's all planned out!!
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