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Writing Thank-You Notes From Your Child

Mommy Dearest: Thank-You Notes From Lil One

Mommy Dearest,

While I don't look forward to writing thank-you notes, I think it's common courtesy to write them anytime you or your lil one gets a gift.

Lately, I've been at a crossroads on how to write them. My little boy is only 13-months-old and obviously can't write them himself. Should I write them from his point of view using his imagined voice, or should I write them from my perspective? I have received both in the mail and rather enjoy the ones written in the child's "words."

—Questionable Penman

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Questionable Penman,

Kudos to you for writing the thank-you notes no matter who you write them from. Everyone appreciates them, even if it's just to let them know that their gift was received.

After my first baby shower, I realized how difficult it was going to be to write thank-you notes for a baby. But I took notes from my friends who had written witty ones from their tots and began to pen mine from my child's perspective. At first it may seem a little silly, but it also allows you to write short and sweet cards. And, you can refer to "mommy" who also loved the gifts junior received. Soon your babe will be able to draw a picture of himself using the gifted toy and then you're off the hook.

—Mommy Dearest

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juliegal juliegal 9 years
i love that handprint idea....i think it's so thoughtful and unique...
Coldplayer Coldplayer 9 years
I never write thank you notes from my 21-month-old son. I have stationery with his name on it and use that, but I write the note and sign my own name.
Marci Marci 9 years
I have a strong negative reaction to those cutesy notes written by the parent in the child's voice. It's not as cute as the parents seem to believe. But I DO love cbgmick's 4 year old dictating his thank-you notes. That's a very different thing.
cbgmick cbgmick 9 years
I've never been a big fan of writing from my child's perspective ( I find it can come off as too cutesy) although I too think the handprint idea is very cute. However, for my son's 4th birthday he sat w/ me and "dictated" his thank you notes to his friends which was a nice way to get him involved in the process (and his friends liked receiving mail that was just for them). Now he that he is 4 1/2 and more able to express his thoughts in some way... he draws a picture and signs his name on his own which also makes the process more "his own".
Mel475 Mel475 9 years
It honestly never occurred to me to write thank you cards "from" my 2 1/2 yr old son! I always write them in my voice but express how much he likes the gift - how excited he was to open it, how he plays with it, etc. For very close relatives and friends, I've enclosed a picture he's drawn as a little gift from him to them but I definitely don't do that for everyone! That's only sent to grandmas, aunts, etc. - those who don't get to see him often and enjoy receiving such things.
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
Personally, I think it's pretty cheesy to write from the child's point of view. Also a little disingenous since obviously a child that young would neither have nor voice those thoughts. BUT, I have received cards from friends written that way that were cute. Also, cards that were gagworthy. :P So, whatever feels good to each individual I guess...
chellebaby chellebaby 9 years
I personally (as a mother and gift-giver) think it is really tacky to write a card from the child's perspective. I would never do this! The handprint idea is cute, but still... way too corny for me!
SussLW SussLW 9 years
I like the hand print idea. However, I will offer an opposing opinion to using the child's point of view. I have some friends and family who send emails or caption photos from the child's point of view and frankly it makes me gag and/or roll my eyes. My husband avoids writing TY notes at all costs, so when sending a note for Christmas this year, I thanked people for all gifts, saying things like "DH loves playing with the remote controlled helicopter you gave him". I don't think a similar statement for a child's gifts are much different.
blondelawyer blondelawyer 9 years
I just got a thank you note from a gift given at a 1 year old party. Her mom used a blank card and put the birthday girl's hand print on it in hot pink paint. They were precious. They were written where the card said "thank you for my awesome dress and matching hairbow. i can't wait til my mom dresses me in it for a day out on the town." It was great!!
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