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Are You a Maternal Gatekeeper?

While most mamas dream of having their hubbies help more around the house and with the kids, USA Today reporter Sharon Jayson says this is easier said than done. The difficulty is due to what she calls "maternal gatekeeping" — mom staying in the role of primary caregiver, which prevents true equality between parents. Do you step back and allow your partner to do what he needs to do or do you encourage him to do what you want him to when it comes to your offspring?

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mstrauss mstrauss 8 years
There is such a fine line between letting my husband do what he wants and "teaching" him the right way to do it (which is most of the time my way). If he really wants to do something his way, I usually just leave the room so I don't have to watch. I know it always turns out okay, but it is hard to watch (like changing poopy diapers-my husband can make such a mess).
Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
I usually let my husband do what he wants, but sometimes I intervene if I think he's doing something dangerous.
Danni99 Danni99 8 years
My husband is our primary caregiver. He connects with the kids and they have a rhythm going that I pour myself into. The benefit is that the kids know both of us are equally capable of kissing booboos, making a school lunch, or reviewing a homework assignment. There's never any issue of "ask your mother, it's up to her" because we both make decisions based on whichever of us is involved in an issue at any given time.
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