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Do I Have to Bring a Gift to Every Prewedding Event?

Ask a Savvy Bride: Do I Have to Bring a Gift to Every Event?

Attending a wedding and all the festivities that lead up to the big day can stir up many etiquette questions. Check out this question below, answered by a very savvy bride, and weigh in with your two cents. You can also submit your questions in our Ask Savvy group.

Dear Savvy,

I'm a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding this Summer. Her engagement party was last month (where I brought a nice gift off her registry) and I just received invitations for two bridal showers as well as a lingerie party during her bachelorette. Without sounding cheap, is it necessary for me, who will be attending all of the events, to bring a gift for every occasion?

Economical Elise

To see what a savvy bride has to say about this, keep reading after the jump.

Savvy bride says:

This is a great question and I can guarantee you're not the only one who has asked it. I don't like to going empty handed to a party thrown in someone's honor — giving and receiving gifts is a tradition at prewedding events — but if you're invited to multiple events for the same wedding, I think it's perfectly acceptable to bring something small (a cookbook, a spatula, a pot holder, or a bottle of champagne, for example) to each one. Most brides-to-be have an array of price points on their registries for this exact reason, so don't feel obligated to break the bank each and every time.

If you can't afford it, make a gesture and offer to help out in some way, such as cooking a dish or driving someone home. If all the revelry is still too much on your wallet, I think it's OK to politely decline an event or two. We all know that weddings can be expensive, even when you're a guest, so just do what you can. That's all any bride can ask of you.

Ask anything budget-, etiquette-, or planning-related — well, almost anything — by posting your questions in the Ask Savvy group, and I'll find the right expert to help you out.

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