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Jealousy Breeds Contempt

Dear Sugar
My friend isn't rich and neither am I, but I am more well off than she is. She says her clothes are worth more than they are - (I know that she gets most of her stuff from lower grade stores, because she openly tells me and we are pretty close).

I really hate it because she gets to go shopping at any store that she wants, and she brags about what she spent. And when I go shopping I try not to make a big deal of it, but I almost feel like I want/have to because she does. I if tell her how much I spent she makes up lies about how that's not very much and she spends more on clothes (which isn't true).

Also, her Mom lets her wear make up doesn't (we are in 8th grade). But I feel like she throws it in my face whenever she gets a new cool eyeliner or lipgloss. My Mom allows me to wear kitten heels and hers doesn't so I don't go around telling her every time I get a new pair of shoes.

I just want to know how to keep it real with her and still live my life and not have to hide anything from her. Do you think it would it ruin our friendship if she found out about my shoes? Worried Whitney

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Dear Worried Whitney
It sounds like your friend is super competitive, jealous and insecure! She's in for a long and frustrating life when she's old enough to meet really rich people. She's always going to feel inadequate about herself and sadly for her, she's going to spend her time (and money) trying to one-up everyone that she meets who has more than she does.

You are very mature for your age. Only tell her about your shoes if you want to; but NO, it definitely should not ruin your friendship if she found out about it. Your friend should be happy for you that you can wear the heels of your choice.

In time, this silly envy that she has for you will get old. Be who you are and be proud. Don't ever feel ashamed that you have more than she does; just remember to always be: tactful, humble and a kind and generous friend. Tell her that it's lame when she lies to you about the money that she spends on the clothes she buys.

She won't admit to it, but you should know that the only reason she is lying is because she's jealous of you.

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