There's a dictionary definition of rape, but some people still struggle to comprehend what nonconsensual sex means [1]. Enter Nafisa Ahmed, a Twitter user who posted a flawless analogy to explain what rape means by comparing it to stealing a $5 bill ("You lent my friend $5, so I can borrow it as well"). Check out her tweets ahead; they've gone viral with thousands of retweets and favorites each.
I don't get how rape is so hard to understand for some men. But, if you put it like this, they get it:
— nafisa ahmed (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016 [2]
If you ask me for $5, and I'm too drunk to say yes or no, it's not okay to then go take $5 out of my purse... Just because I didn't say no.
— nafisa ahmed (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016 [3]
If you put a gun to my head to get me to give you $5, you still stole $5. Even if I physically handed you $5.
— nafisa ahmed (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016 [4]
If I let YOU borrow $5, that doesn't give the right for your FRIEND to take $5 out of my purse.
"But you gave him some, why can't I?"— nafisa ahmed (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016 [5]
If you steal $5 and I can't prove it in court, that does NOT mean you didn't steal $5.
— nafisa ahmed (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016 [6]
Just because I gave you $5 in the past, doesn't mean I have to give you $5 in the future.
— nafisa ahmed (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016 [7]
If you can understand alllllll of that, how do you not understand the concept of rape?
— nafisa ahmed (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016 [8]
Ok, rant over. Times like this are good because it lets me know which men to avoid spend any time with or in the vicinity of.
— nafisa ahmed (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016 [9]
And to think a man said "Well she sat on his lap & went to his house." Okay, if I ask you to hold my purse, does that mean you can take $?
— nafisa ahmed (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016 [10]
This is not the first time someone has related rape to stealing. Another Twitter user, Caitlin Kelly, posted a similar string of tweets in 2014 where she compared conversations about rape to a stolen wallet [11]. While it's unfortunate that Ahmed's and Kelly's comparisons are even necessary, hopefully they'll contribute to the further understanding of rape.