Unlike what you may see in movies or TV shows, you can't always just walk into a bar and ask someone for a threesome. You can, however, download threesome apps. Just like there are specific types of dating apps out there specifically for LGBTQ+ individuals [1] or for those who are polyamorous [2], there are also dating apps for individuals looking for threesomes.
Because coordinating the logistics of how to have a threesome [3] is hard enough, downloading one of these best threesome apps will likely save you a lot of time and effort — mainly because threesome apps open you up to finding like-minded people in your area more easily. Plus, using threesome apps could help you avoid any potential awkwardness that comes from testing your luck in real life.
Whether you're part of a couple seeking a third or you're single and looking for a plus two, we've compiled a list of the best threesome apps to download. All your horny desires await.
The Best Threesome Apps
- 3Somer: This threesome app is likely the most popular download option for those seeking a threesome. Touted for kinky, open-minded couples and singles who want to find a threesome relationship, 3Somer may just be the best option for you. You can use the app to "dislike," "pass," or "like" other people in your area or set your dating preferences to a completely new city. You can download 3somer here [5] (free with premium membership options that start at $16 per month or $100 per year).
- Feeld: Feeld calls themselves the "dating app for the curious," so if you're curious about finding a threesome, this app just may be the best option for you. Sure, it's not specifically a threesome app — people download Feeld to explore many non-traditional arrangements — however, you can make it clear in your profile settings that a threesome is what you're looking for so other people can know your intention right away. The best part? Feeld gives you the option to make a profile for yourself or with a partner. You can download Feeld here [6] (free with membership options that start at $25 per month or $125 per year).
- Tinder: Yes, Tinder is a great place to find a threesome. With a reported 75 million active users on Tinder, it's really a numbers game: the more people you're able to swipe through, the more people you may find who could be equally interested in having a threesome. Though Tinder doesn't include any specific settings to indicate you're looking for a threesome, you can make it clear in your bio or within the first few messages of matching with someone. Just note that it may take some weeding through profiles to find exactly what you're looking for. You can download Tinder here [7] (free with premium membership options that start at $15 per month).
- 3Fun: This threesome app is another option for those seeking a threesome. Not only can you send unlimited private messages with your matches for free but you also don't have to worry about being catfished thanks to their verified photos program. The only caveat is that downloading this threesome app is best for people who live in big cities, as the app reported it is most often used in cities like New York, Los Angeles, and Chicago. You can download 3Fun here [8] (free with premium membership options that start at $30).
Tips to Keep in Mind When Using Threesome Apps
As with any dating app, it's important to protect yourself, as you can never be too sure who's on the other side of the phone. Before deciding to meet up with a match in person, make sure to do some background checking. Spend some time talking with the person you're connecting with to make sure your wants and interests are aligned.
When you're ready to meet them in real life, avoid a sexual setting right away. Experts recommend meeting for a cup of coffee (or anywhere in public) beforehand to feel out the situation before committing to anything sexual. This way, you can gauge the chemistry and decide if there's interest in exploring a threesome.
If all goes well and you'd like to explore the relationship sexually, discuss your boundaries beforehand. This includes your hard limits, safe word, interests, wants, needs, and more. For more guidance on how to specifically coordinate a threesome, read POPSUGAR's guide here [9].
Another thing to note: Some dating apps specific for threesomes may not have as many members as a non-specific dating app like Tinder. For that reason, know that if you don't live in a big city, you may have a hard time finding someone in your general vicinity on these apps. If a threesome app isn't working for you, don't be afraid to look for local fetish or kink-friendly Facebook groups in your area.
Lastly, know that you might be seen by people who know you on these apps. Of course, if your best friend's brother is also on the same threesome app, then at least you know you're both looking in the same direction. But if you're looking for some extra privacy or security, use a general dating app like Tinder instead. Once you match with someone, you can make it clear you want a threesome instead of being on an app specific for threesomes.
Bottom line: Threesomes are fun, kinky, and a great way to explore a new sexual dynamic. When using threesome apps, be smart, agree on what you'd like the threesome to look like, and you may just be in for the best sex of your life.
— Additional reporting by Taylor Andrews
