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Who Decides to Adopt?

Adding a new furry family member is a big decision! Even if the pet is "yours," everyone who lives in the household is affected by this new addition, including partners, roommates, and other pets. Is everyone in the home on board to help care for the pet if situations arise? And, even if you live separately as a couple, where will the pet stay, and who gets the pet if the relationship ends? There are so many variables at work here, so I tried my best to come up with choices below to reflect the many aspects to consider. I'm curious to hear how you feel about whose responsibility it is to adopt a pet.


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LittleMascara LittleMascara 9 years
My bf and I live together. When we moved in together, I had a cat, and he had a dog and a cat. While his pets are very much my pets too, I still wanted that owner/dog bond with my own animal, and he agreed that having another dog around wouldn't just benefit me, but his dog as well! And it does... they're BFF! He ended up adopting me a puppy (that I picked out) and while we are both raising her, she is very much my dog! No custody disputes here...
macgirl macgirl 9 years
I think if he would have been against it and not supportive I wouldn't have pushed it. I just really wanted a pet of my own. I actually started by saying I wanted a cat which he was not for at all. It was when I started thinking about a small dog is when he got supportive ;-)
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Macgirl---I'm glad your experience with "convincing" was different...with time hopefully my boyfriend and I will work out our little family situation! He paid for our uber-expensive pet-sitter too, so I feel like so much of the burden has gone to him, so I feel really guilty...and secretly glad to get my way, lol.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Uggh I adopted my second bunny and I pretty much convinced my boyfriend to do it even though we live together. I thought he would just end up loving her as much as I did, and even though he is a good sport about it, she is definitely "my" bunny, and I regret not listening to what he wanted, because they don't have the best relationship! I'm thinking of joining the Army, and he's going to have to take care of both of them for a while, and I feel so bad now that I talked him into the second bunny!! Definitely don't think you can just talk someone into being glad to have another pet, at least when you live together!! I do love her though, so I guess I'm secretly glad I got my way! ;)
marnapalmer marnapalmer 9 years
My boyfriend and I don't live together and the decision was all mine! Since I live by myself, it's my house, I'll be the primary caregiver, I think that's fair. He had no opinion on dogs before I got my first one, but now he LOVES them. He was very excited when I decided to adopt my second one and he calls him "his boy", BUT were we to break up, I would have full custody of them because they live with me and I get up early to walk them, take them out late at night, handle them if they get sick at 2am, etc.
poom poom 9 years
everyone has a say, especially the other four-legged one in the house!
pixigirl31 pixigirl31 9 years
i dont know but i just love this room!
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Everyone who lives in a house with an animal is affected and think it's only fair that it's everyones choice.
javsmav javsmav 9 years
Sassafras decides--and he likes being the only cat.
Schaianne Schaianne 9 years
I'm usually the person who decides - but hubby has a HUGE input!
macgirl macgirl 9 years
When my husband and I were living together before we were married I really wanted to adopt my little Gage but he didn't love little dogs. He left it up to me and encouraged me to do what I felt was right saying he would be OK with whatever I decided. So I rescued him! We haven't regretted it and he has learned to love my dog despite his size ;-) I think little dogs get a bad rap as I didn't like them until I met Gage. He is the perfect cat... he does all the things you would love in your cat but he's a dog ;-)
ehadams ehadams 9 years
Adopting a new pet should be something everyone in the family agrees to.
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 9 years
I'm pretty much 'the decider' about everything :) but I wouldn't adopt another cat or dog if he REALLY didn't want to.
tawvry tawvry 9 years
My boyfriend and I live together and are adopting a shelter dog (as described in my blog.) We both made the decision since we'll both be caring for her.
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