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Do You Make Judgments About Co-Workers' Food Choices?

Do You Make Judgments About Co-Workers' Food Choices?

The majority of you admitted to judging co-workers by the way they dress and after reading a recent article in the Guardian called "How to . . . eat at your desk," I'm wondering if your judgments stop at outward appearances. The article's author is of the opinion that "the food you consume, rather like the clothes you wear, says a lot about you."

He says anything with the following characteristics is off-limits when eating at our desks: smelly food like burgers and kebabs, kiddy foods like sugary cereal, and noisy food like ripe fruit. And because eating is generally messy, he recommends simply stepping away from our desks for lunch.


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foxie foxie 9 years
Sorry, but who are you to say food isn't something to judge people on? Did I miss that memo? Why is it okay to judge people based on SOME of their choices, but not on their food and health choices?
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 9 years
I don't judge people on what they eat. If they eat smelly food then it is their taste and maybe even part of their culture. If they don't eat their lunch in their own cubicle or where ever everyone else is allowed or supposed to eat lunch then you leave. Everyone likes different things. Many people who are skinny aren't healthy. I'm skinny but I'm barely healthy. Also being a few pounds over weight is actually good, but seeing as how some people described themselves and friends they don't sound too healthy at all. If you eat with someone who says that they are trying to lose weight (to you [If not then mind your own business and stop judging]) and then eats a Big Mac or something then try and tell them a healthier place to eat or give them some tips. Some people just have a hard time knowing when to quit and some people think that when they diet they are supposed to stop eating junk and only eat salads. When you're dieting you're supposed to eat smaller portions of the food you eat and try and cut out things with a lot of sugar or fat - not all of it. If someone gives you crap for eating healthy then just say that you want to be healthy and live long and stay fit. That is it. If they keep bothering you then tell your boss or something. Tell people they're being rude. Many people here should and are being told they are being rude because you are. It shouldn't concern you what others eat unless they ask your opinion or say something directly to you which I already stated. No one cares about your opinion otherwise. Yes, you have the right to say it, but no one has the right to be rude. Stop thinking your better than others. Yes, we all judge people, but food is just not something to judge people about. We all need to stop criticizing and offer help without saying, "YOU'RE FAT! YOU'RE GONNA DIE UNLESS YOU EAT LIKE ME!" Ask people whom you like to join you for jogs or go to the gym or give them recipes for tasty, but healthy food. In the long run you'll not only help them, but feel better for helping someone feel better about themselves and for adding a few years to their life.
pinkerbell03 pinkerbell03 9 years
I used to get judged at my last job, at a cancer center oddly. I'm a vegetarian, and I love tofu/tomato sandwiches w/ a bit of mayo, on whole wheat bread. My boss (60lbs overweight) would tell me that I was eating unhealthy food, as he no joke... ate bacon/turkey wrapped cheese!!! Atkins of course. All the nurses would make fun of me too. It was really frustrating! I finally shut em up w/ "interesting how I'm the ONLY one not on a diet...".
Ryot Ryot 9 years
I think humns are judgemental by nature. It's part of the way we learn. We look at someone else in a situation and say "If that were me, I would do things this way." We run through the scenario and figure out what we would do, and learn from that almost as much as we learn from actually doing. The problem comes in when we go from "if it was me, I would do X" to "because I would do X, you're a bad person for not doing X." I don't think there's anything wrong with judging a situation and deciding what you personally would do, but deciding that someone else isn't worth your time, effort, sympathy, or the space their taking up because they make different decisions than you would is just wrong. But making that jump is a natural part of being human, it's just something we need to fight against, just like we need to fight against our evolutionary need to store up fat for the next famine. It may be natural, but it doesn't mean its the best way for us to live in our modern culture. I try very hard not to judge what my coworkers eat, or even to notice what they do or don't eat, mostly because I've been on the receiving end quite a lot recently. I've never been overweight, but I have a chronic illness that has at times had me confined to the house and using a cane full time, and I'm only 27. Last fall I started on a very restricitve diet that has sent my illness into remission and allowed me to return to work full time. But if I start to slip on the diet, my symptoms return. So in the past few months, I've gotten a lot of "is that all you're going to eat?" comments. Or my coworkers not understanding that as long as I eat the allowed foods 95% of the time, the other 5% can be "illegal" treats, and that when I say "diet" I don't mean low fat foods, I mean the foods that keep my body from trying to kill itself. I've been open and honest about it and have gotten most of them to understand, but it's made me realize that we each have a lot of prejudices about what is healthy and what isn't, and that judgements, no matter how teasing, can certainly hurt. So I try my best not to judge others for what they eat. As far as what someone else said about re-training your taste buds, it's totally true. I can't eat those little Hershey's bars any more, not even as part of my 5%. They taste like melted plastic to me -- it's the high fructous corn syrup and the preservatives. It's not that I don't get cravings for that combination of fat and sweet, but Ben&Jerry's Organic ice cream has been a total life saver there (and technically an allowed food, because they use cane juice instead of processed sugar). You can train your body to be satisfied by natural, whole foods, though I think a lot of people fall off the wagon because they're denying themselves the healthy natural fats that our bodies crave, like fatty fish and whole milk. But I try not to preach that too much, because going from the "I would do X" to "you're doing it wrong if you're not doing X" is that judgemental line we have to avoid. At the end of the day, the point is, the diet that allows me to walk up a flight of stairs unassisted might seem unhealthy to other people. And the low-fat, packaged "diet" foods that others swear by would literally put me in the hospital. We each have different bodies, different needs, different lives. And we need to remember that before passing judgement.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 9 years
I don't think that's what hitthatsmybike said at all. She said she doesn't have to respect or show sympathy for someone's bad least that's what I read. Her post didn't say that obese people don't deserve any respect, period. I have to say I agree with what she said, too. People who call themselves nonjudgemental and then pass judgement on others with name-calling and the holier-than-thou attitude are a joke. I admit that I judge. I also keep it to myself because it's not my job to be the food police.
freegracefrom freegracefrom 9 years
"It seems the lot of you are twisting her words or attacking her out of your OWN insecurities." That's funny how you would assume that. :oy: foxie has made a lot of valid points, just like a lot of other people in here. I know she's an opinionated young lady and I like that about her. What gets under my skin is when people start getting verbally abusive by using words like "fatty", completely without provocation. Feel free to judge whomever you want to your little heart's content for living their life a little differently than you if it will make you feel better about yourself. Judge a man/woman for eating too much or for sleeping with too many partners or for wearing unflattering clothes or for not reading enough books. Whatever you want! Yes, I'm sure I do this too. But consider this - are they doing anything to YOU? When you don't express your opinion in a civil manner (like the way most of the other people in here have) and instead you start attacking them... you probably shouldn't be surprised when some people get irritated and fight back.
hithatsmybike hithatsmybike 9 years
uh..what? I think you're misreading my posts. I thought we were discussing passing judgement on the food choices of coworkers & strangers?
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
hithatsmybike- "They think they deserve it, but they're not entitled to any one of my emotions -- be it respect, sympathy, or compassion -- by backing themselves into a death trap by bowing to their cravings. It would be immoral for me to grant any sanction to that behavior" So you are saying that, if a person is obese, regardless of what they have accomplished with their life, they don't desrve any respect at all?
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
No, I don't judge. I couldn't care less what other people eat. I'm too self-absorbed. :) Given that, I care about what I eat. I eat very healthy. I've received flak from others for my eating habits. But I don't take it personally because: #1. I'm self-absorbed, remember? I don't care about what other think. ;) #2. I think their criticism stems from jealousy. ;) :)
hithatsmybike hithatsmybike 9 years
I've read all of foxie's posts here, and I think she's making a fair point. It seems the lot of you are twisting her words or attacking her out of your OWN insecurities. Now I realize I'm totally turning the fire onto me with this post, but honestly, it's a whole lot of bullshit when you're JUDGING someone FOR JUDGING others. Seriously. When you complain that someone's judgements are mean/stupid/immature/petty/whatever, YOU'RE PASSING A JUDGEMENT. It's worse because everyone always seems to do it with that holier-than-thou attitude, "I don't judge, unlike some people". If you're severely overweight (and I don't meat a little chubby, I mean tipping the scales at 300+ lbs), then all the terrible consequences, INCLUDING JUDGEMENT PASSED BY OTHERS, was EARNED, and it's irrational for you to be opposed to receiving it. You had it coming, just like you have coming all the other horrors associated with obesity. Parts of the world are starving, and in North America, the majority of the population is eating themselves to death. It's disgusting. It's like a bad horror film, except it's real. People have actually sunk this low to the point that they trap themselves in their houses from over-indulging in Krispy Kreme. I can't feel sorry for them just because they want me to. They think they deserve it, but they're not entitled to any one of my emotions -- be it respect, sympathy, or compassion -- by backing themselves into a death trap by bowing to their cravings. It would be immoral for me to grant any sanction to that behavior.
foxie foxie 9 years
Puh-lease. You're calling me nasty and judgmental, so what's the difference between us really? We all judge- and if you're going to act like you don't, you probably shouldn't make catty remarks all the while.
freegracefrom freegracefrom 9 years
Call me crazy, I'd rather be around coworkers that are overweight with a junk food addiction than be around coworkers that are nasty and judgmental. If only more people were as obsessive about making their personalities attractive as they can be about making their bodies attractive.
redegg redegg 9 years
Wow. A lot of opinions here. I do get annoyed when people eat things like green apples and they smack a lot but other stuff really doesn't bother me. Maybe the smell of cooked fish in a closed office. I have had people give me a hard time about my food choices/amount I ate though. I had a boss that would take me out to lunch and if I ate everything on the plate he would laughingly ask me if I had a hollow leg, and more jokes, etc. etc. And I'm not overweight. I think he was just jealous I ate it all. Another coworker would comment every time I got a hard boiled egg in my salad. I guess she just couldn't stand the smell of it because she would say something about it every time, but that was how I got my protein when all I had was a large salad for lunch. And I love to eat fast food every once in a while and I really don't give a crap if it's unhealthy. I cook most of the week and it's all plenty healthy.
itsme3683 itsme3683 9 years
This is completely ridiculous. Not all people who eat junk food WANT to be healthy/lose weight, and I know from personal experience that sometimes you just say you are when you're around obnoxious people who are clearly judging you. And even if they are, it's their choice and as long as they haven't asked you to be their personal trainer/dietitian then get over yourself and let them eat what they want in peace. It already is weird enough to be eating junk food in front of a bunch of healthy people without knowing that they're all judging and gossiping about you as soon as they finish their salad.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 9 years
I'll be honest, I do judge, but ya know, when I get the "Is that ALL you're going to eat?" and "I could never be vegetarian b/c you just don't get enough protein" and "I used to be skinny when I was your age" it irritates the hell out of me. I eat five times a day, I'm not vegetarian b/c I eat fish (and most people are eating too much protein), and I AM NOT THIN JUST BECAUSE I'M YOUNG. I work my ass off (literally) to stay this size, so don't be so dismissive. At least I keep my thoughts to myself while I get crap for eating fruits and veggies and these same people are eating fried chicken and donuts and talking about the latest diet pills. I think I'd be less judgemental if people didn't feel that they had the right to comment on what I eat.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
Usually I dont care, I am not the food police. If people want to be unhealthy than go right ahead I do care however when some women complain about their health, thier wieght, the size of thier clothes, or even comment on how skinny I am and ask me "how to get that skinny" and I tell better and exercise, and they just ignore me, and I see them finishing off an entire medium dominoes pizza with Wings on the side, dipped in ranch. In my head i say "its not rocket science as to why you are overwieght"
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
I agree lol, veggies to become more delish the longer you eat them, but I have to admit...i do crave the other things too lol :P!
foxie foxie 9 years
Well thank you cravin. I really appreciate hearing the other side of the matter when it's given to me in a mature and non-emotional way. I will try to focus more on the positive things they eat and maybe bring in healthy foods to share more often. See what I mean about the carrots (and other veggies)? They start tasting good after a while. It was the same way with me when I started to eat more vegetables- at first I had a real aversion, but now they're yummy (especially asparagus).
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
sushi doesn't smell strongly of fish does it? I mean, it hsouldn't...if it does you ought not to be eating it lmao
SDTransplant SDTransplant 9 years
Hmm, I wonder if I should feel bad for eating sushi at my desk. Then again, my former boss used to do it too as well as another woman whose office is pretty close to hers, so I don't feel bad about it. Besides, I try to limit my smelly lunch food choices to once a week or eat away from my desk.
MsWalton MsWalton 9 years
I don't really judge my co-workers' food choices, but it does annoy me quite a bit when they bring food that they KNOW stinks (fish, weird spices, etc) with no consideration for those around them.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
I agree, your opinion is your opinion. But I must be someone who has struggled with their weight a while and bad habits, if a coworker were to glare at me for a bad food choice, or a person stare at my stomach on the train and refuse to sit next to me, that doesn't make me slim makes me sad, and as a result I want to comfort myself with food. I know this is unhealthy, and right now that is what I am changing (i am instead comforting myself with purchases lol) but it isn't as easy as "eat healthy, make good chioces, exercise daily, lose weight" it's like changing who you are in a way, esp if, like me, the person has been struggling with it for years. So, say a person that usually eats bad everyday at your office, finally brings in something healthy. You should comment on how that looks delish or something. Even if it's only once a week. that once a week may turn into twice a week, etc, until the person is only being unhealthy once in a while. It takes small changes a bit at the time, not big ones all at once, which is what I have learned. I brought in a bag of carrots and light ranch dressing. delish. just as one of many snacks. I didn't really like carrots, ranch is the only way I could eat I like them plain, and look forward to munching on them. It took me 4 WEEKS to get to this point. In fact, the carrots just sat there for 1 week and i was like i really don't want carrots. But here i am, almost a week in a row of nothing but healthy choices and while I am hungry all the time, i am not deprived, I eat about 1500 calories a day, and for the most part, it's all good for me. I am not trying to change your mind, but I want you to see that yes, they may complain about themselves and everyday make bad choices, but if instead of constantly noticing the bad choices you notice when they make a good choice and perhaps acknowledge it, you are helping more than you realize. A kind word goes a lot further than none at all. If they are like me, the only words they reallly get are at work as I live by myself and while i talk to people on the phone, it isn't the same as having someone in person notice i am doing something good and telling me so.
foxie foxie 9 years
It's so immature to revert into the You're-a-Bully mode just because I have an opinion. No one wants to hate you because you're overweight, that's such a stupid thing to assume. I think most people want a general, nation-wide slim down. We're rooting FOR you, not against you.
foxie foxie 9 years
Cravin, I can see where it would come off like that, but this is a thread about food and eating habits. It's not like I'm talking about this in some thread on CasaSugar. I'm just staying on point. We get sweat smelling food in the office sometimes too, but it's not as bad as the butt stink food that occasionally rolls through. Those get me looking on the bottom on my boots for dog poop.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
Do not start on chatondeneige foxie. to be honest, what you have been saying hasn't been matter of factly it has been with a sort of undertone that I thought I was reading into, but I am obvi not if someone is picking up on it. Of course, how can anyone expect you to see that what you are writing could be considered hurtful when you are always right and everyone else is always wrong? That must be a tiring job, knowing everything.
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