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Do You Mind When Strangers Ask What You Do?

When we're out meeting new people, a common question spoken in the first few minutes of conversation is, "What do you do?" I know a lot of people don't like being defined by their job, and therefore get a little uncomfortable when the question comes up. How do you feel about the question when a stranger is asking?

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insanitypepper insanitypepper 7 years
I don't enjoy having to explain what I do because the general field is one a lot of people never seem to know anything about yet always have strong opinions about anyway. And I don't enjoy explaining where I'm currently working because it doesn't meet my expectations of where I should be at this point in my career..
Spectra Spectra 7 years
I don't mind when people ask what I do, but it gets kind of annoying when they keep asking what exactly I do at my job. Then when I explain, they get so grossed out and tell me to stop talking, haha.
DazzleDe DazzleDe 7 years
skigurl - For not being pretentious, you sure sound that way. What's wrong with being a cashier??
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 7 years
I'm really proud of my job so I like talking about it! People seem to treat me with more respect once I tell them what I do.
GirlOverboard GirlOverboard 7 years
The one thing that I hate about answering the question about my job is that whenever I say "game tester," the natural response is "Oh that sounds like so much fun!" or "Oh cool, you know, I've always wanted to get paid to do something I enjoy." The thing that nobody stops to consider is that if game testing were always fun, we wouldn't get paid to do it. Sure, it has its perks and there are times when it *can* be fun, but we have deadlines to meet, bugs to write and specific test cases that we have to run on various aspects of every game. Even when we're not running test cases and we're told to ad-hoc (just "play" the game) we're still having to scrutinize and intentionally play incorrectly in an attempt to break the programming. It's a job. Anyway, I've learned to tell people that I work in the Quality Assurance department for game development. I still sometimes get the same response, but it at least gives me an opportunity to present it in a way that doesn't make it sound like I sit around and "play" games all day. :P
bengalspice bengalspice 7 years
I get asked by extended family and other Bengali aunties and uncles what I do, and I get a blank stare every time. It's really uncomfortable, so I end up just describing it as a cross between Legal and Business Affairs.
Marshmelly411 Marshmelly411 7 years
I generally don't like this question because, like skigurl said, it seems that (at least in the US I think) people tend to form their opinions about you or define you by the work that you do. I'm of the mindset that the type of person you are shouldn't have anything to do with what you do to make money, but so often people don't seem to think this way. I'm okay with talking about what I do, but I don't think this should be the first question you ask someone, as it often seems to be. That, and "where are you from?" (aka what ethnicity are you) are like the first two questions I get asked after my name haha annoyingggg
stellaRuby stellaRuby 7 years
I feel torn. I love my job and love what I do, so I enjoy talking about, but I get tired explaining to people that it is a "real job" and not something college students do for extra cash.
socalbeachgal socalbeachgal 7 years
I don't mind answering the question; it's part of small talk like are you married, kids and what kind of car do you drive. I don't like be defined by my job but it is part of the total me. ok, skigurl and le romantique, what do you gals do? Got my curiosity going.
le-romantique le-romantique 7 years
I love answering it because no one understands... haha
skigurl skigurl 7 years
I know it's a natural question, and I ask it too, so I certainly don't get annoyed. However, I always get weird when I actually answer it. For one, it's kinda complicated, sounds somewhat boring, and then people immediately ask me about my education, and then I feel like I sound pretentious. And I don't want to be defined by what I do, but luckily what I do doesn't have a lot of connotations around it because it's not like "a doctor", "a lawyer", "a firefighter", or "a cashier" - things you see every I'm just associated with another girl with a good office job, and that's it. I hope I'm more multi-dimensional than that anyway.
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