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Ask a Savvy Bride: My Fiancé Doesn't Want to Exchange Gifts

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Dear Savvy,

I'm pretty much the most traditional bride you'll ever meet. My fiancé and I have followed old customs all the way through our planning process, but when I mentioned wedding gifts for each other, he looked at me like I was a mad woman! I was under the impression that we would exchange gifts while each other got ready, like most brides and grooms do, but he thinks it's not necessary to spend any more money on each other — he feels that the wedding rings and honeymoon should be more than enough. I know this comes off as greedy, but in all honesty I'll be disappointed to break tradition. Is there a way for me to change his mind or do I have to just accept his decision?
Bummed out Beth

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Savvy Bride says:

Since you're so traditional I can understand why you'd be disappointed about not exchanging wedding gifts with your fiancé, but try to take a step back and see the bigger picture. Weddings and everything that comes along with them really add up, so while opening something may sound appealing, it just might not be in the budget for your future husband or your future as a married couple. If the actual gift means that much to you, you can always suggest that you exchange gifts on your first anniversary — that will give you something to look forward to, not to mention time to save. If you just wanted to share a moment with your fiancé before walking down the aisle, give each other a card that you can read privately while getting ready — sometimes a handwritten note is the best gift out there. Good luck.

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