This Ask a Savvy Bride is part of a wedding season series of advice from a savvy soon-to-be bride. The post is by reader in our Ask Savvy group — she wants to know the appropriate amount to give for the bridal shower. If you need an outsider's perspective on a wedding dilemma, be sure to submit your questions to the Ask Savvy group.
My friend's shower invitation said to "please provide a monetary gift" so that the couple may enjoy their honeymoon. There was no itinerary to know what their honeymoon will entail or what the monetary gift will exactly go towards. Aside from it being tacky to send out a blanket invite requesting money (IMHO), how do I determine the appropriate amount to give? $50 in the country where their honeymoon will take place will go a lot farther than say $50 in New York City. I read a recent article here on this site about what folks give for wedding gifts, but what about bridal shower gifts? Thanks!
To see the savvy bride's advice, read on.
The Savvy Bride says: Ginamb, that is a great question. I do agree with you that it is a touch tacky to ask for money, but weddings and honeymoons are not cheap. To me, all weddings are unique and there are a lot of factors to consider such as your relationship with the bride, how far you have to travel for the wedding, and the number of preparties there will be before the actual big day. Rather than being concerned with how far your money will go, I would just try to work within your budget. It might be helpful to set a gift budget for the whole wedding, keeping in mind the different events and parties like the wedding day, bridal shower, engagement party, and more. Once you know the total budget of what you want to spend, divide it among the different parties. A good rule of thumb is: spend the most on the wedding gift.
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