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I'm Asking: Do Your Friends Know How Much You Make?

I'm Asking: Do Your Friends Know How Much You Make?

People may be more willing to talk about money matters than before we were reading dooms-day headlines every morning, but I'm wondering if some things are still off limits. Personal finances and friends can be a tricky mix and there are often unspoken boundaries around what's sharing material and what is private. Do your friends know how much money you make, and vice versa?


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tysontysonxv tysontysonxv 7 years
Because I don't make a lot, I am completely comfortable talking about how much I make. I find it easier to gripe than it would be to gloat. I would feel uncomfortable if I made a lot, because then it seems like showing off.
booglass booglass 8 years
I was more open before, however it caused issues with some friends as my husband and I began advancing in our careers. It created mawkwardness and jealousy. I don't think it is an issue when everyone is on the same level. But once that begins to change it can cause problems.
alikat07 alikat07 8 years
No, but they know it isn't much - I'm a grad student and work part time in an assistant position while I'm in school. I'm open about my prospects in the industry I'm going into, though and will tell people if they ask. I am probably never going to be making tons of money, but I'm going into education, which I believe in, so I'm ok with that.
Advah Advah 8 years
Jup - it's a small world here, and my friends and I always end up applying for the same jobs (can be awkward at times!) so we all know how much (or little, some might say) we make.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 8 years
No - it's never come up.
Spectra Spectra 8 years
My friends don't know what I make, but they do know that I am way underpaid for what I do. A lot of our friends work with my husband and they sort of know what he makes, but nothing exact. Besides, it's not how much you make, it's what you DO with it that counts. My inlaws make about 1/3 of the money my parents make, yet they are better-off financially than my parents are because they don't buy a ton of random junk.
CoralAmber CoralAmber 8 years
I don't mind telling and I'll ask my friends if I am curious. None of us work in similar fields, and everyone knows I make the least by far. Although I didn't ask my friend what his yearly was when he got a huge raise that he told us about (seriously, like 5x my pay). I just told him I'd be calling him a rich bastage from now on.
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
We all joke about how little we make and how much work we have to do for it, LOL! So yeah, they know how little I make, and I know how little they make. :D
RRKenney RRKenney 8 years
Personally, I think that salaries should be more public, like in the government. I was very much taken advantage of at my job and if salaries were more public they would not have been able to do that to the extent that they did (they've made up for it since then). If salaries are truly based on your experience and what you contribute to the company then what is there to hide? The only thing that keeping them secret does is hide the discrepancies and allow companies to continue to take advantage of people.
gemini7827 gemini7827 8 years
only my boyfriend, parents and boss. my friends and I do not discuss the topic.
quivondra quivondra 8 years
There are times when I'm totally open about it and other times when I'm very uncomfortable. I think it depends on whether the other person is in the same industry as I am. A colleague that's my junior and is asking for advice, I'm very frank about that sort of thing. That being said, a friend who's a social worker or someone who obviously makes a lot less than me, I'd rather not talk about money in the first place. I feel like if I divulge, they'll just make a comment about how they really love their job or take a jab if I ever complain about my job. Money talk is really only necessary when you're sharing bills with someone or if you're helping someone or yourself negotiate a salary or a raise. Otherwise, I'd rather talk about something less stressful!
dbeauty87 dbeauty87 8 years
yup, all the time. i believe its only because we are all still in college and recieve hourly pay. if it were my career and salary, i would be more secretive about it.
Jmartens Jmartens 8 years
nope, only person outside of my boss is my s/o
hippiecowgirl hippiecowgirl 8 years
My husband knows and my BFF knows. I'm honest if someone asks, but I don't throw that number into conversation otherwise.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 8 years
My boyfriend and two of my closest friends know but that's it.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 8 years
Only the ones that have asked...which is only a couple. It doesn't really matter to me and I don't think it really matters to them how much $ any of us make.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
within my school friends, yes, because we all know what level each other is at upon graduation and it's public knowledge if my other friends cared enough to google it they could find out too two of my other four best friends probably have a good idea, but nothing solid, and same of me with them...i think basically we have a good guess within 10-20K so nothing firm or anything, but like i bet we could rank who makes most and go down and be pretty be honest, i don't really care though!
hmcmcd hmcmcd 8 years
no, we don't really talk about it, although I think everybody can guess. b/c we work for ourselves sometimes we make A LOT more than everybody else and sometimes we struggle. just depends on how business is going. And there really isn't any point in talking about all that.
lizs lizs 8 years
No...they know that I make more than they do, but they'd probably think that no matter what because I buy high-quality things and didn't complain even when money was tight for me. I know exactly how much some of my friends make, and I prefer not to talk about money with them because I don't want to be pressed to talk about how much I earn.
verily verily 8 years
My little circle of friends knows what we each make. We like to announce pay raises to each other and then go celebrate it. ;)
cassedy04 cassedy04 8 years
my friends do because we all have the same job at competing firms, and all got the same job offers - so we indirectly know everything! my other friends outside of the profession dont know though.
malaprops malaprops 8 years
I work in a government institution, so anyone who can google me knows how much I make. I will say that it's strange when family members call up saying, "You make HOW MUCH!?!?" Um, yeah.
jkat jkat 8 years
Yes, but mostly b/c it is public knowledge. I (and many of my friends) work in BigLaw where salaries are pretty much lockstep with your class year (there is some variation in starting salaries, but which firms pay what is public knowledge from thye recruiting process). Although I don't think it is a big deal to talk about salaries. I know generally what most of my friends make. Most of it I could guess just from common sense anyway.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 8 years
My friends know, I don't see why its a problem. Some cases its nice because if they work in the same industry then you could see if your getting paid fairly.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
nope - i don't talk salaries with people. i've shared how much i've made in past positions but i won't ever talk about it now since i think that it's not appropriate for people to know what my income is right now. the only person who knows is my fiance but that's a necessary thing since we share expenses.
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