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Marrying For Money

How Much Weight Does Money Have in Your Relationships?

I've never been someone to evaluate a guy's attractiveness according to what's in his bank account or what kind of inheritance he may have lined up. But I do know several girls who list wealth as a must have in a guy and won't even consider dating someone that can't provide a luxurious lifestyle. Of course you want your boyfriend to have a good head on his shoulders and be financially stable, but I've never understood the disparity in setting higher money expectations for a guy than I would for myself.

And while money hasn't been a priority in finding my match, a Prince & Associates survey of 1,134 men and women earning $30,000 to $60,000 a year found that about 70 percent of women and 50 percent of men said marrying for money is a consideration. How much money are we talking? Every person said they'd prefer to marry someone with a net worth of more than $1 million.

So tell me, how much weight does money carry in your relationships?


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princessjaslew princessjaslew 9 years
i would rather be with someone who works hard for his own money than with someone who was born with a silver spoon because i have to work hard for my own living too. that said, i'm also at a point in my life where i would like to be with someone who really doesn't have to worry about where the next meal is coming from or whether or not we can afford to go to a nice restaurant when the mood strikes.
freegracefrom freegracefrom 9 years
A guy's salary doesn't really mean much of anything to me, as evidenced by the person I'm marrying. Heh. As long as he is hardworking and is working at a job he loves, I'm happy.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Of course money is important, but I would only expect a boyfriend or a husband to be as financially responsible as I expect myself to be. I have student loans, and entry level job, and I'm looking to start law school in the fall. My car was a college graduation present. I pay my bills and am responsible for my loan and that is all I would expect any man to be able to do for himself. Anything more is just icing on the cake, and not necessary. I do agree that I would "prefer" a man who has money too, but really what does that mean? There are many things that we'd prefer but still are not essential or important! I am sure many of the women answering that survey feel that way too! I'd also prefer that I made more money too!
ElissaM ElissaM 9 years
Equality is important to me. "Rich" certainly is not. Generosity comes in many different forms...
marcella marcella 9 years
My boyfriend and I are equals. If he lost his job tomorrow, I'd still love him and would help support him. But, he better be looking for work! That being said, my older sister's saying is "You could be poor alone." I agree with that!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
It carries some weight, as money is necessary to live.
onabanana onabanana 9 years
It's not about the money necessarily, ambition, and responsibility play a huge factor. For me the other person has to be able to take care of his own affairs responsibly and that means paying his bills and some sort of future planning. I think its important for both parties to feel that he/she have a partner and that the other person can support him/her in stressful times and as relationships progress sometimes that means financial support. Financial stress can certainly affect a relationship but a relationship based solely on financial gain is kind of sad...maybe a little sick.
fashionhore fashionhore 9 years
What matters to me is his ability to save and spend wisely and if he is responsible enough to pay bills and other obligations on-time. Like most have already said, money is so low on my list that if I were to right it out, it would not be on there. There are other things in life that matter more. Money doesn't buy happiness!
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 9 years
Oh, but before him, the only thing that matter financially was the he had his own car to take me out in, lol.
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 9 years
I met my fiance when I was 19 years old. He happened to make a lot of money. He was 28 and had just bought his first house. If we ever broke up, I'd want to date someone with money because now it's a matter of quality of life and what I'm used to.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
I've been in relationships with guys who've had quite a bit of money and ones who don't, and I can honestly say that the money has made no difference whatsoever to my happiness with that person. I expect to be able to support myself, pay my own bills, and if I want some luxury, to be able to buy or save for it myself. In fact, I was much less happy during the time in my life when I was being "spoiled" by a man. It made me feel obligated. I prefer my freedom.
slalom780 slalom780 9 years
The amount of money doesnt matter you just have to make sure both parties view money in the same light. IE important to both or not important to either!
bfly1133 bfly1133 9 years
First of all, I can provide my own lifestyle. I don't need someone else to give it to me. Money, no. Responsibility and finacial savvy, yes. We all need money to live and it's nice to have more than less. However, I have never based happiness on what I have in my bank account or on the expensive things I can buy. Money never even entered my mind when I met my husband.
CoconutPie CoconutPie 9 years
Money is not important at all. I'm a poor college student and he left everything behind in Europe (including a great job) to be with me in Canada. We don't have much money right now, but we have everything we need and being together is the priority.
mandy_frost mandy_frost 9 years
By the way, what is this? 1910? It is not a man's job to support a woman just as it is not a woman's job to support a man. If you can't deal with a guy making 30K who is paying his bills and being responsible with money, he's probably too good for someone as shallow as you anyhow.
mandy_frost mandy_frost 9 years
The important things regarding that aspect are that he is ambitious and responsible. If you are ambitious, I don't care if you are a fry cook or an investment banker. You are doing what you are passionate about and really care about it. So long as he budgets his money and pays his bills (whether that means we make Lean Cuisines every night due to budget constraints or we go out for filet mingons every night), I don't really care.
ualili ualili 9 years
My DH was a poor college student when we met - no job, no car and pretty much lived on Ramen and pizza. I had already graduated and was well into my first "real" job. However, DH was smart and had a great major and within weeks of us dating he got a job and bought a car so he "could take me out." That was five years ago and today he has a great job with great benefits and we're building the life we want. At that time in my life I was much more willing to be patient, so even though I'd like to think I would definitely give him a chance if we were to meet today, I'm not sure. Its sad to think about what I would miss out on.
mcreverie mcreverie 9 years
i think money is a big factor whether we like to admit it or not. i don't need a guy to be rich or anything, but if a guy can't balance a checkbook, the sad truth is that i would never marry him.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
money IS important to me in a realtionship. I want him to be able to take me out for dinner, pay half for bills...things like that.
ilanac13 ilanac13 9 years
i think that after a certain point in your life - money really does have an impact. when i was in college - i was ok with almost marrying someone who made no money - but these days - although i don't need a millionaire - it's really reassuring to know that the guy that i'm with has some money coming in. think about the lifestyle that you want to have when you get older - have kids and the sort. do you want to be able to take vacations or have nice things - go to nice dinners? it may not be the most important element in a relationship - but you have to admit - eating ramen noodles in a small 1 bdrm apt isn't as much fun to think about.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 9 years
Oh, and that study? Well, I'd prefer to marry someone worth over a million, too, if that was the only factor. I mean, if there were two men that were equally as funny, intelligent, sensitive, attractive, loyal, etc. and one of them was making a cool mil a year and the other one was only pulling in $30k or so, I'd go for the millionaire, too. But on my list of qualities important in a male, salary is WAY down at the bottom. Actually, it's not on the list at all.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 9 years
As long as a man can pay his bills on time, is self-sufficient, responsible, and ambitious, I don't care how much money he makes.
pixelsugar pixelsugar 9 years
I don't date someone because I think they may have tons of money. If they do, then that's a bonus. However, I don't want to date a guy who is broke as a joke and makes me pay for dinner at Wendy's or something. I'm all about taking turns paying for things, but when I end up paying for everything every time we go out, someone's getting the boot.
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