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Resolving Problems With Colleague

Reader Asks: Should I Tattle on My Co-Worker?

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I have a co-worker who I do not get along with, and my boss is quite aware of this.

Said co-worker likes to take advantage of every situation, and it's really getting on my nerves. His wife is pregnant and having "complications," so he "can't be at work." I'm friends with her on Facebook and she is constantly posting pictures of her going out at night. I'm at my wits end. Yesterday, he left early because his wife was "having water retention problems." Soon after, she started documenting their bar hopping on Facebook...multiple mobile uploads throughout the night, featuring them at a popular bar known for their Tuesday night specials. Today, my boss informed me that his wife is still not feeling well, and so my co-worker will not be in again.

This is ridiciluous. We are paid salary, so he gets paid whether he shows up or not. Should I show my boss the pictures? This is probably the 50th time this has happened. I'm afraid it will backfire on me, since my boss knows my co-worker and I don't get along (because he's always pulling cr@p like this).

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Emily-Co Emily-Co 6 years
Deidre makes a great point! I think it might be weird to suddenly delete your co-worker on Facebook, so just hide his activity from your newsfeed so you don't have to see what he's up to. Try your best to also stay away from his FB page — out of sight, out of mind! I don't think tattling is the best choice in this situation, because your colleague isn't affecting your work and it might backfire on you. It also depends on how you do it and what kind of relationship you have with your boss as well. I had a friend who "tattled" on some of the younger employees who were causing a ruckus at the company party, but it was for the good of the company, because they have an image to uphold. It's always a good idea to explore your reason for tattling and ask yourself questions like, "Will this benefit my company in some way or will it only relieve my frustrations?" and "Is his behavior a detriment to my work?"
Deidre Deidre 6 years
Another vote for RyssaAda. It's in your best interests not to say anything. And honestly, if it's bugging you this much, you probably shouldn't be FB friends with the wife of the co-worker you dislike (doesn't make much sense anyway!).
chipjimi chipjimi 6 years
I agree with RyssaAda. "Tattling" may back fire on you. I did it once and I was told by the President of the company that I needed to get long with the other employee better.
brilliance13 brilliance13 6 years
I completely agree with RyssaAda, focus on your own career and being better and more successful. If this situation affects your own work, then try o find a workaround to those specific issues and avoid tarnishing your own reputation.
RyssaAda RyssaAda 6 years
While it may feel good initially to "tattle" on your co-worker, in the long run you'll only end up tarnishing your professional reputation and most likely burning some bridges. As someone who has experienced a situation similar to this (and been in the role of the boss) you could come out of it worse off than your co-worker by involving yourself. Focus on going above and beyond in your position and don't get involved in petty crap with your co-worker. Your job isn't to 'teach them a lesson in ethics', it's to complete the tasks you were hired for. Unless it really is affecting your job performance leave managing employees to your boss. If his behavior does affect your ability to do your job (which it sounds like it doesn't, other than being HUGELY annoying) address these specific challenges with your boss without being accusatory or bringing up your co-worker.
EvieJ EvieJ 6 years
I don't have any advice to add beyond the above, but am just shocked that your boss let your co-worker leave because his wife is suffering "water retention complications". Honestly - that's a laugh-out-loud excuse for a man to leave. And why is his pregnant wife bar-hopping? I think it sounds like both of these people need to grow up a bit.
harleycowgirl harleycowgirl 6 years
I absolutely understand your frustration in this situation. I have dealt with my fair share of unreliable and irresponsible employees and co-workers. You only have 2 options. Option 1 is to sit back and let nature take it's course...people always get caught eventually...yeah right! No. Reality is that people need to be held accountable for their choices and sometimes that means that people like us have to hold them accountable. I am not sure I would call it tattling. I would prefer to call it like it is...providing accurate and honest information to the necessary person(s) so that the company does not suffer undo harm. Right now your company is paying him to play hooky and relying on the remaining responsible employees to pick up the slack. This eventually will cause friction and resentment among the employees and employers. It sounds like maybe this has already started happening with you. It won't be long before other co-workers are also affected. If you have proof to back you up that he is taking advantage of your employer, then do you and your employer a favor and let them know the situation. Your co-worker also needs to learn a lesson in work ethics and you covering for him is not doing him any favors either.
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