Skip Nav
45 Life Lessons Written by a "90-Year-Old" Woman
44 Disney Cruise Hacks You Need to Know Before Sailing
The Tokyo Disneyland Hotel Looks So Freaking Cool, You Won't Even Want to Visit the Park

Are You Honest in Your Relationship About Spending?

Are You Honest With Your Honey — About Money?

The other day I caught myself telling a little fib. My guy asked how much I spent on a certain pair of shoes, and I couldn't bring myself to share the deets. Instead, I gave a revised answer, reworking the numbers in my head, and came up with a price I thought might go over a little better. Regardless, he caught the grin on my face, and I spilled the beans and came clean about the actual cost.

After going over the scenario in my head, I have to admit I was a little embarrassed about my unnecessary fib. At this point in our relationship, we've been together for a while, but we're not linked financially. I have a completely separate bank account, and I'm financially independent — of anyone — let alone him. So, why the embarrassment at the cost of the shoes? I suppose even I felt silly splurging, but I've come to terms with the purchase. I'd eyed the goods for over a month, I had the money to spend, and I'm still saving to meet my other financial goals. After the incident, I've become a little more secure in my financial skin — I'm not going to go around revealing the costs of all my bargains and splurges, but certainly, I've realized I can level with my guy about my spending. No, he doesn't need to know everything, but if he asks, he'll get the truth. What about you — when it comes to spending, are you honest with your honey?

Around The Web
Join The Conversation
Spectra Spectra 6 years
Yep, for the most part. He sees the credit card statement every month and if he wonders what some charge is, he asks me. And I always tell him what I bought so there's no fighting. I have a separate account for "me" stuff that I buy for myself that my husband doesn't have access to, so anything that I think of as a splurge comes out of that account.
amber512 amber512 6 years
Absolutely! We are both completely honest with one another. Well, technically he has to be since I check our account daily since I'm the only who handles the finances!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
Yep. Besides, we keep our personal finances in Quicken. All he has to do is launch that file, and sees everything. Full disclosure. :)
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 6 years
I'm frugal so I'm totally honest. Usually I like to tell him about the smokin' deal I got on something. :)
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 6 years
I am honest, because I've never done anything he'd disapprove of. He's definitely the one who recklessly spends money and has no financial foresight.
Overcoming Buyer's Remorse
How Stores Trick You Into Spending More Money
How to Prevent Financial Mistakes
How to Make Your Money Last
Inexpensive Weekend Activities
Quiz on Credit Card Spending
Worksheet for Figuring Your Monthly Spending

POPSUGAR, the #1 independent media and technology company for women. Where more than 75 million women go for original, inspirational content that feeds their passions and interests.

From Our Partners
Latest Afforable DIY & Organization
All the Latest From Ryan Reynolds