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Do You Have a Digital Dating Dealbreaker?

Tech Dating 101: Do You Have a Digital Dating Dealbreaker?

Dating in the digital age is tough; this we know. Add multiple technologies and methods of communicating into the mix, and things can get downright ugly — remember the quote from Drew Barrymore's character from He's Just Not That Into You? I've offered some of my best dating advice for dealing with modern-day dating challenges in my Tech Dating 101 series. This week's edition: dealbreakers.

A friend in another city was casually dating someone who she seemed into; she'd send periodic email updates on the places they went and always gushed about how sweet and attentive he was. Realizing I hadn't heard an update in a few weeks, I asked her how things were going. "Oh, I ended it," she said. "His emails were starting to freak me out." His emails? Really? For her explanation,


She went on to explain that he constantly addressed her by first name in emails and text messages, something she couldn't stand. I figured it was just his way of being attentive and personal, but she found it too formal. In hindsight, I don't think she was as into this guy as she wanted to be and was looking for some kind of out, hence, the proclamation that the over-personalized emails were a dealbreaker.


I'm not sure that I have such a specific dealbreaker, though I have made it pretty clear how I feel about emoticon overuse and questionable photos on his laptop. Aside from major issues, though, I can't imagine ending something with a potential date because of something petty like his email language. What about you? Are there any digital dealbreakers you can't get past? Or have you worked through something similar with your significant other?

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LilGlamDiva LilGlamDiva 7 years
Bad grammar. End of story. There are some exceptions, but if there is terrible spelling in e-mails, texts or anything, or he resorts to- "C u l8r" or something 12 year old like that I just can't deal. I was an english major and I think things like that just look ignorant. Can't do it.
Raynne413 Raynne413 7 years
I had several things that were deal breakers when I was doing the online dating thing. The first was if the only communication was email or texting. That is fine when you are FIRST getting to know each other, but if it continues, it shows that he is not wanting to get close. Also, last minute dates are a total no go. I refuse to be an after thought if his other plans fall through. Also, generic good morning sunshine, and never using my name in texts is a no go because most of the time, that shows it's a generic that he probably sent to every female in his phone book.
sourcherries sourcherries 7 years
Geeksugar, I'm with you on abuse of emoticons. Also, I had a textual relationship with a guy who used "lol" in Every Single Text!!! I am not a 12 yo girl on im! In fact, come to think of it, any guy who habitually texts "lol" becomest instantly less attractive to me.
TidalWave TidalWave 7 years
im with Akash - if we are actually conversing, just call me. And if you're going to call me, leave a voicemail!
Akasha Akasha 7 years
The only thing that really bothers me is text conversations. I love texting for work and for making plans because I can scroll back and check to make sure I have the right address, or time. Also because I work freelance it's the best way to establish whether or not I'm available to talk, but once it moves beyond 10 texts it's a conversation. Pick up the phone. I met one guy who after a week and a half I had pages full of texts conversations between us, but no real conversation. At first I thought it was sweet as I had gone out of town the day after we met, but once I got back it started to get annoying. The thing that was the deal breaker for me was that even though he would text me, he wouldn't answer the phone if I called in the middle of a text chat to have a real chat. When I asked him about it he said he just laughed it off. I started to get uncomfortable with the whole thing so I stopped responding.
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