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Tech Dating 101: To Google or Not to Google

Welcome back to Tech Dating 101! In this age of modern dating, there are no more secrets — not if you're on Facebook, anyway! Now, when you make a date with someone and learn their last name, no longer do you imagine what it would sound like hyphenated with your last name — no, you take that last name and type it into Google.

But is that the best idea anymore? It's pretty hard to resist a quick Google search so you have a bit more information about what you're getting into, but you deprive yourself of the mystery of a new person, and the fun and surprises of getting to know someone new.

What do I suggest? I'm going to go ahead and suggest the possible controversial non-Google. That's right, geeksugar is advocating not Googling your dates.


To hear how I've come to this opinion, as well as a Point/Counterpoint, just


I've dated in the age before Google, the hard time when no one had social network profiles and you had to get to know each other totally in person, and in the age after, where I've Googled the crap out of potential dates.

Googling is satisfying, but it's no match for meeting the person. Some people are great on paper, bad in person, or the opposite. Even if you Google them and still give them a chance in person, you usually still think about something you may have read.

Now, for Point/Counterpoint!

Point: You should Google him in case he's an axe murderer.

Counterpoint: National axe murderer records aren't really accessible online.

Point: He might have some crazy hobby or offensive opinions he mentions on an online profile.

Counterpoint: It's better to hear everything in context. Jokes don't always translate, and it's easy to misunderstand someone on the toneless Internet.

Point: What if he's actually listed as "in a relationship" on Facebook?

Counterpoint: None. Good point.

NatalieSuleski NatalieSuleski 8 years
I think that you shouldn't google. I was tempted but in the end it all comes down to how much you trust that person.
thescott thescott 8 years
I agree. Always Google. And, besides, who says that the info you dig up with a simple Google search will be negative? Maybe you'll find out that they're a championship bowler or they're really into paper mache -- then you'll be able to give them something to talk about if the conversation ever finds itself needing a pick-me-up.
Angelica Angelica 8 years
Google. Always Google.
leslievanhouten leslievanhouten 8 years
I am all for googling and looking up people on facebook. The info is there for a reason. A bad idea, once you start dating someone, digging on their exes. That never goes well.
slackferno slackferno 8 years
True and terribly sad story: my best guy friend started dating some sketchy woman, and I googled her. I found her fiance's blog. Her CURRENT fiance's blog.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
Luckily, since I go by aliases, and my emails have never been indexed -- I am un-google-able. And I don't do social networking. Anyway, googling someone can be potentially disasterous. You can read something he posted in 2005, and then disqualify a great guy from a date? You may see things that you turn into a huge ordeal. Is it really that big of a deal that he posted on the foot fetish forum when he was 15? Is it really that big of a deal that he called someone pretty in a chat that you found via google? No, it's not. You can find a whole lot of things that appear differently than how it really is, especially if context is not taken into account. When it comes down to it, you will never find out all of his ins and outs from facebook, or even his real personality. Text cannot really portray someone accurately. Take all that you read with a grain of salt, and remember that the internet personality/actions don't always match the real world personality or actions.
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