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Your Date Has a Ton of Female Contacts in His Cell – Should You Be Worried?

Tech Dating 101: He's Got a Ton of Female Contacts

So we'll say that your date left his phone on the dinner table as he ran to the bathroom before the check came, and the snooper that you are couldn't keep from getting your eyeballs on his contact list. And guess what? He's got a large number of female numbers stashed in his cell. Should you be worried? That's what we'll figure out on this edition of Tech Dating 101.

First of all, what are you doing pilfering through your date's cell phone? Snoopers never win my friends. But if you are legitimately worried about whether or not he's a player, I've got a few options on how to figure the situation out without looking like the jealous type. Find out more when you


  • Ask yourself: What does he do for a living? If your date is in PR, marketing, or any type or advertising, he's going to have a lot of entries, female and male. Don't judge the contact list by its cover.
  • Watch a wandering eye: If your guy is on a date with you and is constantly checking out other scenery, he's probably just not that into you.
  • Go with your gut: If you have a gut reaction after seeing the male-to-female ratio that says this dude is a player, then go with it. Sometimes, listening to the little voice inside that's telling you to run away is the one you should obey. Never mind the fact that he's drop-dead gorgeous, just run.
  • Wait it out: If you're having a good time and aren't looking to marry the guy (well, not yet anyway), then maybe you should go on a couple more dates before you start worrying about how many contacts he has on his email list. Just sayin.
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staple-salad staple-salad 7 years
Snooping is bad! Let you suspect something's up at least before doing something that invasive, and even then, it's better to just talk about it than snoop. And there's always the possibility that the guy's like my boyfriend, fantastically loyal, but has a lot of female friends, most of his coworkers are female, and he's in a female-dominated family. Doesn't mean he's a player, he's just surrounded by women.
falnfenix falnfenix 7 years
once again with the snooping! snooping is flat-out wrong. end of discussion. if an individual is snooping, they're LOOKING for reasons to be angry.
TidalWave TidalWave 7 years
This is stupid. A few of them easily could be family members. Another few work contacts. What am I supposed to do? Not have any male names in my cell contact book so a guy doesn't break up with me? gimme a break.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 7 years
Have you thought about the possibility that the guy just has a lot of friends who happen to be female? I'm a girl, and most of my friends are male. My husband has way more female friends than male ones. Not everyone is going to be a cheater just because they prefer hanging out with the opposite sex.
chakra_healer chakra_healer 7 years
ITA, Akasha! I have no tolerance for snooping. Going through someone's phone is not only a violation of privacy, it also screams insecurity/lack of confidence, and, well, crazy woman. My advice to the victims (male or female) of people who do this: As soon as they ask about your cell contacts, text buddies, e-mail buddies, IM buddies, etc., RUN! Their asking means s/he's already snooped through all your stuff, and is incapable of understanding that you're on the date or in the relationship, because you think s/he, as opposed to the people in your phone book, is attractive and pretty awesome.
Akasha Akasha 7 years
I'm sorry, but if you are snooping on your first date you are a psycho and he should run as quickly as possible. I find women who snoop are looking for trouble and will always find it. Not to mention it just perpetuates the stereotype that we are all over-dramatic children who not only cannot be trusted nor do we have any impulse control. This would be as unacceptable as a man going through my purse if I left it at the table. I know I personally wouldn't want someone thinking me a tart because I have a great number of male contacts in my phone. Some of whom I may have once dated and are still friends with and others which are work colleagues or friends.
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