When a sweet-looking woman tells her partner something bad, whether it's sexual or, on occasion, mean, I have heard from my plethora of friends and colleagues that it's incredibly sexy. The whole sugar and spice thing has played out for so many years that when a woman has something spicy to say, her partner listens.
In my experience, I have always been more adept at using verbal foreplay, otherwise known as dirty talk, than my partners have been. Call it the stereotype of the gift of female gab, but giving good dirty talk in the bedroom can instantly up the hotness factor and make a good man or woman turn just bad enough and a bad man or woman so bad you can't let go. Aren't those types of sexual partners the absolute worst? (Yes, deliciously so!) So whether you're an absolute pro or completely tongue tied, I have a few tips to make talking a little bit nasty a whole lot easier and more fun!
If the idea of saying anything remotely sexual gets you in a panic, try these few tips.
You're either hardcore into the idea of being a dom or sub, or you're more on the mild side — a little Fifty Shades of Grey foreplay is all you like. Either way, if it's got the element of control and power, it's your type of sex. Here are a few commands to give your love verbally for the boss and submissive in you.
If you like your sex nice and easy, without any kinky fanfare, you don't need to say much to up the sex factor. Just telling your partner that you want sex, want them, are dying to see them naked, and can't stop thinking about sex, or a very simple "I'm naked right now," is the perfect leeway to introduce a rather enchanted evening or day.
If it's only sex if it's dirty sex, you've got to have confidence and chutzpah (balls) to play off these tactics:
There is always a time for dirty talk. Well, okay, you might want to avoid it at a funeral unless that's your bag of tricks, but:
Dirty talk is one of the best sexual games you can play. Chances are, your partner may be shy too. Don't worry — it's practically impossible to mess up unless you prattle on and don't leave room for silence (those silent times are when your lips can be doing other things) or you invoke his mother or bring up a sobering topic. Trust me, girls . . . you've got this! Have fun and please do tell me later.