Breaking up suuucks. Even if the relationship was bad, even if you saw it coming a mile away, even if you know it's the right thing, it hurts. In the psychotherapy world, we see this stinging truth over and over again: each ending brings up every ending, meaning that when humans experience heartbreak, there is often a depth of emotion that opens up — both about the current loss as well as other "unrelated" losses from the past. Grief often has this kind of cumulative effect, at least for a while. Here are a few ideas to carry with you as you move through some really tough stuff.