When you’re busy working on being the best parent possible, it’s easy to neglect your adult relationship. Ashley H., for instance, says that after being with her husband for nearly seven years, their “love life is almost like a routine, and sometimes nonexistent." She asks, "How can I get the romance back into my marriage?” The experienced moms community says it’s not impossible to get the spark back in your relationship, but it does take a little commitment. Here, they share six ways to rekindle your relationship.
- Spend Time Together
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that if you want to put the romance back in your relationship, you have to actually spend time with the other person. After all, how can you get close if he spends all night on the couch while you go to bed early? Make it a point to spend time together after the kids are in bed, moms suggest. Amie T. recommends activities like playing video games together, watching movies, going for walks, or just cuddling together while talking. “The simple little things we do for each other just reaffirm our love for one another,” she says of her relationship.
- Treat Every Night Like It’s Special
To get out of the rut of being exhausted after a long day of work and getting the kids to bed, Linda M. says, “change out of the flannel jammie pants and into a cute pair of boy shorts and tank or a pretty nightgown. Light the candles, set the mood, watch a movie, and do what comes naturally." Ary S. agrees, noting that it takes simple gestures to make the night seem special — these “little things can make a huge difference" in your relationship.