Why Strong, Successful, Take-No-Crap Women Are NOT Afraid of Divorce

The phrase "you're a strong and independent woman who doesn't need no man" should never be taken lightly. It speaks true to the women who are able to be strong, successful, and single. Our friends at YourTango tell us why successful women aren't afraid to get a divorce.

Times have changed, ladies!

Divorce is daunting; we get it. Even when you know down-to-your-bones that the relationship you're leaving (or thinking about leaving) is not right for you, fear of the unknown, feelings of failure, and dealing with a collective societal side-eye sucks.

It's all a part of your training, girl. These are just all the more reason your decision to exit a bad marriage showcases what a strong, capable, self-respecting woman you are. More than that, your willingness to leave the wrong person is something to celebrate. And your ability to do so indicates a very real shift in the economic and personal power of women.

In her groundbreaking book, "Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage and Why We Stray," author Helen Fisher (aka the badass biological anthropologist) showcases an undeniable correlation between women having economic power and social respect and their choosing to sign divorce papers.

"This correlation between economic independence and divorce rate is seen in a host of cultures," says Fisher. "Where men and women are not dependent on each other to survive economically, bad marriages can end — and often do."

In our modern world, women now have access to opportunities and resources that allow them to walk confidently out of marriages in which they are unhappy or treated poorly and into the life — and future relationship — they deserve.

So, go on and mourn your marriage, but don't allow anyone to convince you that the D-word is dirty. Here are eight very real reasons strong women aren't afraid of divorce:

1. They're done with tolerating BS!

You know what we are talking about: All of those moments when you felt like you were talking in circles, when his behavior made you feel devalued, the sleepless nights, the tears, the gut-wrenching realization that the relationship keeps you from being your best, true self.

You can now take all of that energy and pour it into building a life you love, and making room for someone who will appreciate, complement and even enhance it.

2. They finally know what they don't want and what they do deserve.

Even if you're feeling completely lost right now, the very fact that you're choosing to get up and go instead of suffering in silence as you "settle" for sadness shows that you have a clear understanding of what won't work for you and what you won't stand for. Do you have any idea how far ahead of the curve that places you?

3. They won't be "forced" to stay in a relationship that isn't right for them.

When Fisher wrote that divorce rates were higher in societies where women had independence and equal land, animal, currency and informational access as men, we weren't surprised. Being financially independent offers the ability to choose who you want to partner with based on shared interests, chemistry, values and vision.

Let us give a big "Thank You" to the women in history who fought long and hard for our ability to get up and get paid.

4. They're ready to invest in a better life.

Choosing to no longer invest in something that offers you no returns is considered a smart move in finance, right? Why would making this decision in your personal life be any different?

Never allow someone to convince you that staying in a situation that takes more than it gives is the "right" thing to do. Instead, do what is right for you.

5. They understand that divorcing the wrong person paves the way to finding the right partner.

In fact, Fisher points to research (and the US Census Bureau confirms) that men and women who leave unhappy relationships usually move on to marry again. "The majority of people who divorce fall in love again and either remarry or build a new life with a new partner," Fisher says.

The idea that your bad relationship is the only opportunity you'll ever have at love is one of the most toxic lies people tell themselves. The reality is, you'll walk forward with a better understanding of who you are and who you are looking for which will make it easier to move into a healthier, happier relationship.

6. They think loving someone for who they are (and not what they can provide) is HOT!

There's a special kind of bonding that happens when two independent, self-sufficient and self-aware people come together in a relationship. Instead of one looking to someone as a "provider," you can now look at that person as a partner. You can now both appreciate each other for the gifts you each bring to the relationship.

Make no mistake: Power imbalance will corrode a marriage, whereas balance and equality fosters mutual respect. Have you ever had sex without baggage, anxiety or resentment? It's delicious.

7. They'd rather be alone than part of an unhappy couple who watches the hours pass by in silence.

Say what you will about being single, but it's better than being legally tied down to a bad, loveless roommate situation. Strong women may have moments when they fear being alone, but the idea of being lonely in a marriage terrifies the hell out of them! Now you're free to do what you want, when you want, while remaining open to meeting someone new.

8. They know divorce doesn't mark the demise of family values. In fact, in a weird way, it's a return to them.

Are you ready for a kickass secret that's been tucked away from us? Most early hunter-gatherer societies were based on an egalitarian structure where men and women both contributed to survival and both were openly sexual (as in, they chose a partner for family-building and lovers for dalliances).

According to Fisher, it wasn't until the dawn of the Agricultural Revolution that things shifted. When use of the plow was introduced, which required excessive strength to operate, the balance of power tilted. This change increased man's social "importance," as well as his personal wealth. To protect both, the idea of 'woman as property' and "permanent monogamy" (aka total fidelity on the woman's part) came about and divorce became forbidden.

Men and women now returning to a balance of both working, both tending to the children, and both having full sexual agency is nothing new. This is us simply returning back to the glorious balance we originally shared together.

So, I know you're possibly worrying about your next steps. You're wondering what awaits around the corner. And that's normal. As you look to your new future, I encourage you to stand tall, confident that you're headed in the right direction. Feel proud for choosing to make a tough decision in order to live your best life and find the love you deserve.

If anyone tries to shame you for walking away, remind them that equality is rooted in biology, and science trumps shade any day.

Welcome to your new chapter.

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