Can your guy's mother seal or break the deal? Well, that depends . . . on a variety of factors. We often forget that when we marry the person, we marry the family. And how entwined or not entwined a man is with his mother can have an impact on your relationship, as much as we wish it wouldn't or won't.
Of course, each situation is different, but there are some factors to consider when you're dating a man and trying to evaluate the impact of his mother on your lives together as a couple.
If he doesn't care whether or not she likes you, you're good. But if he cares very much and she's not sold on you . . . be prepared for a battle, unfortunately.
If he can think for himself, he'll be able to deal with any gripes or issues regarding you, him, and his mom or you and his mom.
If you find he's not able to do a lot on his own without getting her word or blessing or advice . . . eek. This could be one hell of a painful relationship.
It can be hard to deal with a mean, abusive, or even distant future mother-in-law. If you can try to be a peacemaker or avoid conflict or contact with her, your guy will appreciate that. If he can tolerate you two not being BFFs, then that's all that will matter, really.
Does your guy really want you two to click? If you don't naturally but he's able to navigate and try to get the two of you together, it shouldn't impact the relationship. If he is unable to lead and finds himself taken over by his mom, then there is a problem.
If the answers are both in the affirmative, then you have a great man. Keep him.
You've got a large problem. And if your man seems hesitant to commit based on his mother's relationship with you, this is a big fat glaring red flag!