You're making the move toward greater financial independence for you and nobody else. Take a look in the mirror, and imagine the person you want to be, particularly that person who has total control of her money. Commit yourself to becoming that person and don't look back!
Do this: Start off your new financial independence resolve by educating yourself on what you need to do to get your personal finances into good shape. I recommend reading Ramit Sethi's I Will Teach You to Be Rich to start with!