1 Mom Lost Her Baby During a Home Birth — and No, This Doesn't Make Her Choice Irresponsible

Aimee Green
Aimee Green

Aimee Green, a woman from the UK, went through any soon-to-be parent's worst nightmare: she gave birth to a stillborn baby girl. And although the grieving mom is facing criticism for giving birth at home, as opposed to a hospital or birth center, Aimee doesn't regret her decision. In fact, she wants other women considering having their children at home to know she's part of a small minority of moms who lost their babies during such a birth, to make them aware of her experience, and to support their decisions.

She told POPSUGAR that no matter where she had her baby, whom she named Luna, the birth process would have led to the same tragic result.

Nothing could have been done to prevent Luna's cord from snapping as it was too short — roughly 12 centimeters. On the last push, it snapped and she lost her blood there and then. We couldn't have been any more prepared if we tried! I had a textbook pregnancy and fell into the "low risk" category, which allowed me the option of a home birth. I was glowing throughout my pregnancy . . . loved every single second!

Not only that, but during labor, she had ample professional support throughout the entire process:

"I had four amazing midwives at home with us for the birth of Luna. In the UK, if I were to be in hospital, I would only have one to every six to seven women in a maternity ward," she said, adding that her 11-hour labor went smoothly until the very end: "Her heart rate was monitored throughout. She was doing amazing throughout the entire labor. Waiting for the last contraction I felt she was stuck like on [what felt like] a bungee cord. I pushed with all my might, and the cord snapped, all of Luna's blood was lost at this point, and there was no reviving her without blood in her body."

"Waiting for the last contraction I felt she was stuck like on [what felt like] a bungee cord. I pushed with all my might and the cord snapped."

It was later confirmed by two consultants and a placenta and umbilical cord test that where she gave birth wouldn't have affected the outcome.

"Doctors wouldn't have been able to perform a C-section in time to save her before delivery as there weren't any signs that anything was wrong," said Aimee. "Also, they couldn't do a blood transfusion fast enough to save her; if they did, she would have severe brain damage and would have most likely been in a vegetative state, which we wouldn't have wanted and she wouldn't have wanted that for us, either."

Although she's beyond heartbroken over the loss of her first child, Aimee is still a supporter of home births in general.

"I 100 percent support home births! I was a rare extreme, one in a million case. I had no signs whatsoever throughout my whole pregnancy or labor until it was too late. I encourage [women to have one] to the moon and back if this makes them feel the most comfortable, and it's what they desire to do!"

The family has started a charity in Luna's honor, which seeks to help parents cope with giving birth to stillborn children.

Aimee Green