37 Things Never to Say to Someone Struggling With Infertility

While the journey to motherhood can seem relatively easy for some, for other hopeful parents-to-be, the process can be excruciating. Whether a couple struggles to conceive or endures multiple miscarriages, trying to have a baby can be filled with agony and pain instead of joy and anticipation. If you know someone who is having a hard time dealing with infertility, it's natural to want to help. However, sometimes well-intentioned words can hurt just as badly as the hormone shots and failed pregnancy tests. Instead of risking causing a friend or loved one more pain, avoid saying these 37 things.

  1. When are you hoping to get pregnant?
  2. Relax and don't stress.
  3. It will happen when it's your time.
  4. It hasn't even been that long yet.
  5. Being patient is a part of motherhood.
  6. Enjoy being able to sleep while you can!
  7. You should stop working out so much.
  8. Just be patient and wait for your turn.
  9. It's such a shame; you'd be an amazing mom!
  10. It's not happening because you're too stressed at work.
  11. Take advantage of the free weekends.
  12. Things could be worse.
  13. Just stop trying — you might be surprised!
  14. Does it have anything to do with your weight?
  15. Maybe it's not meant to be right now.
  16. Why aren't you considering other options?
  17. You should stop trying so hard.
  18. You should be grateful for what you do have.
  19. Why don't you just adopt?
  20. Maybe you should be done?
  21. Has it happened yet?
  22. But you're so young!
  23. You should look into other doctors.
  24. When it becomes a chore, that's when it's time to stop.
  25. You definitely have plenty of time.
  26. I wish I could help — it happened so fast for us.
  27. Actually being a parent is way more stressful than this part.
  28. You can borrow mine if you want them!
  29. It took us a few months, too.
  30. Have you heard that Sally went through infertility, too?
  31. Pregnancy is overrated, let me tell you.
  32. It will happen naturally if you let it.
  33. You really need to take better care of yourself.
  34. Are you surprised?
  35. I bet it's because you waited.
  36. You don't need a child to complete your family.
  37. Whose fault is it?