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Teacher Fights Bullying

Teacher Finds a New Way to Fight Bullying

Bullying, whether on- or offline, is one of the biggest concerns in schools these days — one that parents and schools are working together to stop. One teacher, however, is taking bold steps toward a solution. During a conversation with her son's teacher, Glennon Doyle Melton, author and founder of Momastery, learned about a little activity that could have a large impact.

Every Friday the teacher, whose name was withheld in Melton's post, asks her students to write down the names of four children they want to sit with during the upcoming week as well as one student whom they believe is, "an exceptional classroom citizen." However, she does not do this so students can sit next to their BFFs. Rather, she analyzes the papers for patterns. She looks for the names that are not being requested, the ones that go from several requests to none, and the ones who leave their sheets blank. She looks for the lonely children, and then rearranges the seats to help them connect with their classmates and, hopefully make some new friends.

The teacher began this activity 14 years ago. More specifically, the day after the Columbine High School shooting. Realizing that "all violence begins with disconnect," she has found a way to break the pattern and, hopefully, save several lives.

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KathyNaughton KathyNaughton 3 years
Great idea!
SaraMichalek SaraMichalek 3 years
I would like to know how it worked.
EloisJeanetteBurke EloisJeanetteBurke 3 years
Thanks for this post, will share it with all my friends and family.
ShakirinaLIkram1369464817 ShakirinaLIkram1369464817 3 years
In a small town school of Rinching, Malaysia, the bullying of a 12-yr old Indian child whose father had died got to such that it became intolerable and without actions both from his mother and uncle that he drank pesticide and died. He was a good student and a prefect the previous year. But this year the mother was late in furnishing his photo and he was NOT selected that led to the taunting. One of the bullies even brought his brother to intimidate the victim if he ever reported the matter to his family. The school had not responded fast enough nor firmy to his complaints, Neither did his family, so one young life wasted due to adults tardiness and ineptitude.
LalaBoom1384480733 LalaBoom1384480733 3 years
This is very proactive- thats the point fellow negative commentators. I, for one, as a stepmom appreciate this teacher's initiative to try and combat a very real problem that is slowly destroying the lives of many children. Whether her method works, or doesn't, doing nothing at all and being doormant is a worse alternative. I rather hear about educators [working toward] finding a solution than being sitting ducks while kids resort to suicide as a means to deal with bullying.
Harv15024107 Harv15024107 3 years
This teacher does not seem to be dealing with bullying, but rather with the tendency of people not to associate with those not understood of disliked. This seems like a typical girly type of thing where there is an exclusion from the "in group." However, bullying among boys is different and usually may involve physical pushing, shoving or hitting. This girly thing is not bullying by my definition. It is a type of cattying type emotional thing that is often found among girls. There is even a fairy book on the subject.
JennGabory JennGabory 3 years
MelvaBigEagle MelvaBigEagle 3 years
Teachers are impacting our children's lives and how they respond to the students does matter; I think her proactive attitude is awesome.
Ann14951667 Ann14951667 3 years
I like this, but would like to see more teacher connect with those students who he or she should clearly recognize as bullied or left out over time. I think also teacher modeling, especially in the elementary grades, goes a long way toward helping to prevent bullying. Here I am talking about much more one-on-one and other sincere, individual attention given to all students. This enables a teacher led array of modeled, love, honor, care, and consideration for all of the students. I feel only by such modeling of this care will students think in more correct ways to not look for victims. Also, I feel any disrepect shown any student needs to be dealt with by using some reward usually given for good behavior then taken away and given to the one victimized. I am grateful for that teacher's efforts.
AddieDiRoberts AddieDiRoberts 3 years
This teacher sounds wise; however, I hope she closely monitors these kids who none requested to sit by. She could be placing them in seating arrangements that could prove to be even more damaging as bullying could be taking place behind her back, as it usually does.
AndreaKrueger AndreaKrueger 3 years
That's awesome! What an observant and creative teacher!
normaharrist normaharrist 3 years
Great idea!!
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