9 Secret Strengths of Introverts
Despite popular belief, there is nothing wrong with having an introverted child. Instead of trying to completely change these kids and force them to be more outgoing, it's important to understand why they act the way they do and celebrate the unique strengths that they possess.
Susan Cain understands that having a quiet approach to life is a great power and a tool that kids need to learn how to use instead of entirely reforming. In her book, Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverts, she explains that being an introvert is about having a deep inner life and considering it to be just as important. She also clarifies that there is a neurobiological difference between introverts and extroverts because their nervous systems react differently. An introvert's nervous system is more responsive to what is going on around them, which is why they feel more comfortable in calmer settings with less-stimulating surroundings.
While it's easy to spot an introverted kid in the group, many don't realize or appreciate the unique qualities among these children that should be celebrated. These are strengths of introverts that parents need to recognize and support in their children.
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They are content with spending time alone.
These children are low-maintenance in the sense that they are perfectly happy with spending time doing their own thing and finding ways to preoccupy themselves. They don't need someone to constantly entertain them and can enjoy time with just themselves.
They are independent.
Instead of getting a bunch of people involved to solve their problem for them, introverted kids are self-reliant. They don't depend on their parents or peers for everything from a source of entertainment to assistance with every challenge; instead, these kids will try their own resources first before asking for help.
They opt for quiet time out of choice, not fear.
Unlike shy kids, introverted children are not being held back from doing what they want because of fear. They are quiet or spending time alone because that is what they want to be doing and are choosing to do what makes them happiest instead of being limited by anxiety.
They have in-depth friendships.
These loyal friends might not have a long list of superficial friends, but they nurture the relationships they do have. They prefer to have a deep friendship with someone over being acquaintances with everyone and they keep their friends close.
They are cautious.
Instead of just jumping right into different situations, these kids will take time to process information and consider the potential outcomes before acting. While it might seem like they are standing back at first out of fear, they are really just taking a moment to observe the situation and not get involved in something they may later regret.
They don’t speak just to hear their own voice.
Even though these kids are quiet, when they do speak, it's important to listen because they most likely have something thoughtful to say. They thrive during smaller interactions and prefer to have in-depth conversations instead of just surface chats.
They are capable of self-exploration.
While some kids suffer with self-expression, these children have an easier time getting in touch with their feelings because they take the time alone with their thoughts to reflect. It may be harder to tell how an introvert is feeling because they aren't as open with their feelings and are harder to get to know, but they enjoy activities of self-exploration and will share with those whom they consider close.
They are observant.
Don't underestimate an introverted child — they are busy picking up on everything that others have missed. Their self-discipline and observations can be a powerful tool and will make them a valuable team player as they get older.
They are great listeners.
These kids don't try to be the center of the party or act out among peers just for attention. Instead, they are a solid shoulder to cry on and are supportive listeners of any problems troubling their friends or family.