The baby blues are very real, and oftentimes, difficult to understand. For Emily Skye, an Australian trainer and health expert, the concept of being sad after giving birth was something she never could've imagined. "Having a baby was something I've always wanted, and I was thrilled to have her," she wrote in a post for Women's Health just 11 weeks after giving birth to a beautiful girl named Mia.
"Unfortunately, sometimes things happen that are outside of our control — your hormones go absolutely crazy after giving birth, and there's very little you can do about it. I just had to ride out the hormonal and emotional changes the best I could. I spent at least 10 days feeling really sad and crying constantly," she wrote of her experience.
The emotional roller coaster after coming home from the hospital had thrown Emily off in all aspects of her life. But the worst part about her internal struggle was that it was completely out of her control, yet it somehow controlled every bit of her existence. For Emily, so much of her life revolved around fitness, yet she couldn't possibly work out feeling this way.
"I felt abnormal and alone (even though I wasn't)," she wrote in an Instagram photo. "I knew I was so blessed but I couldn't help feeling really down for no reason! I thought I was supposed to feel overwhelmed with happiness and I felt guilty for feeling this way. My hormones were haywire, I was severely sleep deprived and questioned whether I was cut out for this whole 'being a mother thing.' All I knew was I loved Mia more than anything."
It took having my baby Mia for me to be truly grateful for my body and to be proud of myself and what I'm capable of. 💗 . @recdedmond took this pic the day we brought Mia home from hospital! Everything was a blur back then and I was in the middle of post baby blues - I felt abnormal and alone (even though I wasn't). I knew I was so blessed but I couldn't help feeling really down for no reason! I thought I was supposed to feel overwhelmed with happiness and I felt guilty for feeling this way. My hormones were haywire, I was severely sleep deprived and questioned whether I was cut out for this whole "being a mother thing". - All I knew was I loved Mia more than anything. 💗 Luckily these negative feelings passed within a couple of weeks. 🙏🏼 My hormones levelled out and I'm sleeping pretty well now. I love being a mother to Mia and I know I'm a fantastic mother to her. ☺️ I had no reason to doubt myself - but I guess we all do from time to time. I've been blessed with the most INCREDIBLE baby girl! Everyday I fall more and more in love with her... and it's a love I could have never imagined before. Having her has changed my life, my mind and my body pretty dramatically and I wouldn't want it any other way. I'm truly grateful and proud of myself. 🙏🏼😃🙌🏼 Remember - you are more capable than you think you are. Don't ever be afraid to reach out and ask for help. You are not alone. 😘💗 . . #neverdoubtyourself #begrateful #appreciate #yourenotalone
With the passing of time came the passing of these dark emotions, and she was ready to get back doing what she loves most . . . besides being a new mother. "It wasn't until I started doing some light workouts that I started to feel better after giving birth to Mia," she wrote. "It's so amazing how good you can feel after moving your body and getting the blood flowing again." Emily even swapped out her kettle bells for controlled squats holding her baby!
Being a mother changes everything we know about love and life before giving birth, but for the 33-year-old new mom, it's changed her time management and her appreciation for the little things. But the point is, as much as we doubt ourselves and question literally every single thing as a new parent, we cannot be afraid to ask for help, especially when it's our well-being that depends on it.
Emily closed her post with an important message: "Other women need to know that they shouldn't feel ashamed if they're battling depression or the baby blues. Talk to someone — a loved one, a counselor, a friend, or anyone you feel comfortable with. It's so important we talk about depression more and end this cultural taboo of keeping it hush-hush."