10 Reasons to Believe in Yourself Even When Nothing Is Going Right

Updated on 6/20/2018 at 3:40 PM

The past year has been a series of event after event, after event. I feel like all I did was micromanage a series of paperwork, insurance companies, and other paper trails, or put out fires, whether it was helping a loved one of mine or dealing with damage control of some kind or the other. Financially? Just as hard . . . probably the hardest year I have ever had as a single mother. There were many times where I thought to myself . . .

"When is it going to get better?"

And:

"I'm just failing."

I really doubted if I could handle "one more thing," yet there was life, handing out "one more thing" to me again . . . and again . . . and again!

Here is the good news: I handled it. I am still handling it, and contrary to those negative thoughts of mine, I am not failing. Failing is really just not trying, right? Well, I try. I do more than try. I persist, resist, and insist on moving ahead. But the one thing that really saved me were the friends who told me that it would get better. Eventually, I too started to believe that it would get better and that I could do this.

"See?" said one of my best friends, "Look at all you are doing and handling with such class. I am proud of you." I could do it. Even when times really suck, you need to believe that you will prevail no matter the circumstance, because if you believe it, you will be victorious!

Because even if you think you just aren't good enough, you've got friends who know you are!

When you're truly in despair, reach out to a friend and spend time with him or her. Ask for support.

Because even though the waters may be stormy now, they won't always be this way. They will calm down.

Remember, life is cyclical. It will get better. It has to!

Because times may be tough, but you are tougher.

You really are your own worst enemy sometimes. Knowing this, don't be your enemy — be your BFF! Try to appreciate how you are handling the bad times. Try to appreciate how you are handling the stress. Champion yourself.

Because even when everything looks like doom and gloom, you can always find one moment of beauty or happiness amongst it all.

Try to focus on small positives, even if it's the weather or having a good hair day. Eat a piece of delicious chocolate. Find a gorgeous fall leaf.

Because while the sun has to set, it also has to rise.

How long will it really be this bad? Not forever. Everything is temporary. Something good will come from this stormy period.

Because your luck will change, and more importantly, you're not going to give up until it does.

Life is equal parts perspiration and inspiration, right? If so, stay the course. Don't give up. Those blood, sweat, and tears will pay off!

Because you're a dreamer who has big plans even if they're temporarily on hold.

Just remember all the things you have done, all the things you set out to do, all the ways in which you don't let a little life BS bring you down!

Because you are loved and loved for a reason.

You may think you're failing, but we have all felt that way at some point or another. Just remember when you feel like you have nothing to offer, there is someone who begs to differ. Someone who, whether romantically or as a friend, thinks the world of you.

Because without rain, there would be no rainbows.

How would you appreciate the great times without the bad? You wouldn't!

Because you don't give up. You keep on going and you stop to celebrate who you are and where you are going.

Because even if life currently stinks, you know that you will have your day and time to shine again!