Sexiness and confidence go hand in hand, and both start with your attitude. You have to believe that you're the badass you are. Like for all things in life, mindset is everything. We all have insecurities that eat away at our self-love attempts, but we don't have to let those toxic doubts win. And while this state of mind doesn't switch on overnight, there are several small things you can do to help bring your inner queen to light. Our tips ahead won't work if you're not open-minded and willing, so leave all that at the door before you proceed. Now, let's do this.
Go ahead, it's not narcissistic at all. Show yourself some love and jot down your favorite physical attributes, personality traits, accomplishments, anything! It's time to celebrate you.
This can be lingerie or even your boyfriend's sweater. My personal fave is an oversize shirt or pullover and thigh-high socks. When you feel good, you know you look good, so just walking around the house in your outfit will be enough.
Put on your sexy outfit, turn on some music, and let your body give in. If at any moment you feel silly, try your best to push those thoughts aside. If you need some liquid courage, drink a glass of wine before getting started. Pro tip: the more skin exposed the better — candlelight seriously flatters all body types.
Flaunt what you've got. If you love your lips, butt, or even hair, make it the highlight of your look. You don't even have to step a foot outside, either. There's no shame in staring an extra second longer when you pass the mirror.
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5Experiment with daring looks you've been afraid to try.
Play with makeup looks, hairstyles, or different outfits at home. Go as wild as you want, and when you land on a look you love, debut it the next time you go out — or now! It's also fun to lounge at home looking fierce as hell.
Get dolled up and wear something you feel great in. Then hit the bar solo or make a reservation for one at a place you've been dying to try. Going out alone can feel awkward at first, but it's also thrilling to not need anybody else. Who needs a plus-one when you look damn good anyway?
Confront what you dislike about yourself on paper — and then toss it. Shred it into a hundred pieces if you want. Instead of allowing yourself to get consumed by your toxic thoughts, put it down in front of you, embrace it, and start focusing on the good.