Hayley Booth nipped the idea that coparenting is always a constant struggle between exes right in the bud when she posted a photo to Facebook with her husband's wife walking her daughter to class on the first day of school on Aug. 16.
The status was a response to the questions Booth gets from strangers on how she manages to coparent so well with her husband, her ex-husband, and his wife — and the answer is pretty simple.
"My answer is always the same — we just love our daughter," Booth wrote. "We all love her, and nothing will ever change that. No child deserves to be tossed around back and forth, used as a bargaining chip, or to be put in the middle of any adult drama. She didn't choose to be born, and she certainly never chose for her parents to get divorced."
After Booth explained how ridiculous it would be to make her daughter choose between parents, she touched on a more sensitive topic: dealing with her ex's new wife. She wrote:
My daughter calls her bonus mommy "Mommy" . . . and you know what? That's OK, because that's what she is to her, she IS her mommy. She is there for her always, she takes care of her, she plays with her, she teaches her life lessons and how she should behave, she gives her hugs and kisses goodnight, she does everything any mother would do. But most of all she loves her like she is her own. It takes a very special woman to take a child who they didn't give birth to under their wing and become their mother.
Booth realizes that she's pretty open-minded when it comes to having her child call another woman Mommy, but she thinks that being overly territorial isn't going to make things any better.
"You're being selfish," she said. "If you are lucky enough for your ex to have a woman who loves YOUR child or children like their own, and one who helps raise them and shape them, why would you not allow them to call a woman they love mommy?"
In the Facebook post, Booth also acknowledged the importance of putting the drama aside when it comes to parenting and explained if you leave the pettiness at home, coparenting can be a breeze.
"Sometimes you just have to put the petty little things aside, to raise your child to be the amazing human being they are meant to be," she said. "My daughter isn't the only one who loves her bonus mommy, I love her too. She's become one of my best friends and I rely on her for many things. She is one of the strongest people I know, and I am thankful for her everyday."
The moral of the story? Sometimes doing what's best for your kid truly turns out to be the best for everyone involved.