Constance Hall is the first to admit that she swears — and those who know her would most likely respond, "No sh*t!" to that admission. However, when this mom of four accidentally uses these particular words in front of her children, she tries to justify it to herself by remembering that she only swears for emphasis and not actually at someone.
"You'll never catch me calling someone a name or screaming 'f*ck off.' It's the 'for f*ck sakes' when you [sic] you've gotten everyone in the car and are pulling out of the drive way [sic] when you smell a baby decided now was the perfect time to drop a sh*t," she wrote on Facebook. "Or the 'holy sh*ts!' At the pain that an innocent babies [sic] soft little lips can shoot through your body when latching onto your nipple."
Despite the "example" Constance was setting, she explains that her kids never curse because they know that only mom can use these words. "I barely even needed to teach them that, it was instinctual," she wrote. "Adult words and they rarely repeated them despite the odd hilarious moment in the supermarket . . . "
However, her 5-year-old boy, Arlo, recently started "dropping a few bombs," and to Constance's surprise, his friends also feel pretty cool when they throw the word "f*ck" around. "Does it bother me? Not much, meanness would bother me more," she wrote. "I certainly don't encourage it, have pulled him up on it and he appears to have stopped."
Instead of getting upset, Arlo saying "f*ck" and other "adult words" made Constance realize something important about her child. "Arlo is reaching an age where his friends have a greater influence on him then [sic] I do, he copies them, loves them dearly, and gets empowered by them," she wrote. "I read about that once, about how you will come to a time where your children get their power from their mates and there isn't much you can do about it, you need to let them discover who they are in a group of peers." To Constance, this development in her son's language is socializing, and she sees it as a beautiful thing.
Constance recommends making an effort to point out when a friend does something nice and to recognize the positive behaviors and respectful qualities you see in your child's peers. "So while it's important to say 'don't swear it's not cool' it's equally important to teach your kids to strive to find friends with similar moral codes to your family," she wrote. "That way when they do ignore you and run off with their mates, they are in good hands, maybe cheeky ones, maybe sweary ones, but good ones none the less [sic]. Because our house hold [sic] might be a sweary one, but it's a bloody kind one and it's full to the brim with love."