"Can you help me with something?"
Temper tantrums happen. In fact, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, tantrums are a normal stage of development for kids who are testing their limits and learning how to express their frustrations. In other words, if you have small children, you really can't avoid the occasional fit when they don't get their way, are tired, hungry, or aren't sure how to react in a given situation.
The good news is that a mini (or not so mini) meltdown is a great opportunity to help your child learn how to deal with difficult emotions effectively and calm down. The key is to remain calm yourself, Dacia M. McCoy, Ph.D., BCBA-D, an assistant professor at the University of Cincinnati in the Behavior Analysis Programs, tells POPSUGAR. Once you have your emotions in check, there are many phrases you can say to your little one to diffuse the tantrum. Read on to find out the best words to use to keep things under control. And remember that every child and situation is different, so you may need to try several phrases to find the ones that work for you. Dr. McCoy also urges you to keep in mind that sometimes, there are no magic words to end a tantrum, and the best thing you can give your child is time to get their discontent out of their system.