Resident relationship expert at eharmony Dr. Seth Meyers suggests healing through positive thinking. "There are certain things you can tell yourself, what psychologists call 'positive self-talk,' that will help you manage the disappointment and allow you to regain your confidence," he told POPSUGAR. He suggests taking a quick mental inventory of the traits you like most about yourself and actually list them out. "Once you've done so, reflect on the fact that these traits aren't changing anytime soon and that others will find them attractive."
Dr. Matthew Holden, PhD, a 30-plus-year clinical psychologist who also happens to be my father, also suggests reframing those negative thoughts that come into your consciousness after you've been ghosted. "When your mind suggests that you did something wrong, come up with a metaphor like leaves falling off a tree and visualize those thoughts falling away from you," he told POPSUGAR. From there, replace the negative thoughts with affirming ones. "Let the leaves blow by, and use hard evidence to remind yourself how wonderful you are," he continued. This might mean pulling out old letters of recommendation or cards from friends or, in my case, just calling your dad.
