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Hilaria Baldwin Wrote a Candid Instagram Post About Being a Stepmom, and It's So Heartfelt

Hilaria Baldwin isn't afraid to open up every now and then to share a few intimate glimpses into her personal life. On Friday, Hilaria, 35, shared a heartfelt Instagram post about her experience being a stepmom to 22-year-old Ireland Baldwin, Alec Baldwin's daughter from his previous marriage to Kim Basinger — and I can practically feel the respect and love radiating off of my screen right now.

"I rarely address being a stepmom, but it is part of our family," Hilaria wrote. "I always want to deal with it with such care . . . so often you hear horror stories about evil stepparents and I wanted to make sure I did right by the family I was stepping into when I married Alec. I love my stepdaughter as much as I love my biological children and I become a mommy lioness when I see comments that insinuate otherwise."

As far as her relationship with Alec's ex-wife Kim, Hilaria added, "Having a stepchild is a delicate matter. Especially one who is grown. I think my relationship with her has been so successful because I never tried to step in as her mommy. She has a good mother, who I have tremendous respect for . . . and I put myself in Kim's shoes: if my children ever had a stepmother, I'd want her to let me be number one." So sweet!


"When I met Ireland, I said to Alec: if she is not ok with our relationship, I cannot go further. Family is first and she needed to be ok with me," she continued. "We have never had a fight or a bad moment. Nor have I with her mother. Ireland and I love each other and she knows that I am here for her . . . and I know that she is here for me. I am inspired by her, look up to her (not just height wise 😂) . . . she gave her father away at our wedding, is the best big sister anyone could ask for...and I give her space. I don't ever expect her to be anyone other than herself." Needless to say, Hilaria loves Ireland just as much as her biological children, 5-year-old Carmen, 3-year-old Rafael, 2-year-old Leonardo, and 11-month-old Romeo.

"As someone who loves her, my job was not to step in and take over...but rather respect what had been for the first 15 years of her life and then become a part of that, in a way that works for everyone," Hilaria wrote. "So yes, sometimes my language about my biological children does not include her. Because I did not birth her and I never want to disrespect the fact that she has a wonderful mother. But this will never take away from how much I love her, need her in my life, and think that she is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Please don't look for trouble where there is none."

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