5 Nonnegotiable Rules I'm Giving My Kids' Grandparents About Christmas Gifts This Year

The other day, I walked into my daughter's playroom. It's full of shelves, baskets, and bins that are stuffed with crap, and there was stuff strewn all over the floor. Normally, I'd make a mental note to remind her to clean it up after school, but I didn't. Instead, I cleaned it. And by cleaned it, I mean I went through it with a trash bag and threw in everything that hasn't been played with for as long as I can remember. I'll hang on to those bags for a little while to make sure she doesn't ask where something went, but the odds of that happening are slim. And when she doesn't ask, I'm donating them. Bottom line: she has too much stuff that she doesn't need, most of which came from her grandparents. And with Christmas coming, I'm putting an end to it before it gets worse.

My parents are the worst offenders when it comes to gift giving. My family has always gone all out for Christmas. We decorate on Nov. 1, the Christmas music plays on repeat in our house, and my parents take the mentality "it's better to give than to receive" quite literally. They just give too damn much. And while it's great they can and want to do that, I'm drawing a line in the sand — er, snow. Now that we have three children, it's time to set some nonnegotiable holiday rules for my kids' grandparents. Keep reading to see them all now.

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Give Your Time Instead of Gifts
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Give Your Time Instead of Gifts

Spend less time shopping and more time doing. Bake with them. Take them to see Santa. Wrap presents with them. They'll remember the things you did together more than what you bought for them.

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No Pets
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No Pets

How much is that doggy in the window? Don't ask. Just keep walking. I don't care how much they beg and plead, just . . . no.

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Don't Overload Them
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Don't Overload Them

My twins will celebrate their first birthday just nine days before Christmas. Instead of going overboard with big items they'll outgrow in no time, they'll be perfectly happy with just a few small items in their stockings.

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Remember That You Are Not Santa
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Remember That You Are Not Santa

We want Christmas to be magical for our young children. That means Santa will be the one to leave that one item they so desperately want under our Christmas tree. So please check with us before you go ahead and buy it.

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In Lieu of Toys, Please Donate to Their College Funds
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In Lieu of Toys, Please Donate to Their College Funds

In 10 years, it won't matter whether or not my children got the hottest toy of the year. But their college funds will matter. Each of my children has a 529 account that their grandparents (or anyone for that matter) can make a direct contribution to.